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Getting an “I don’t care” attitude

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 The1stWife (original poster member #58832) posted at 2:00 PM on Tuesday, June 21st, 2022

WhatsRight,

That sounds like you entered the Twilight Zone at the church.

We had a really great church until this woman pastor ran the former senior pastor out the door.

The first manipulative behavior she pulled in me — I informed the senior pastor. His response was "she wouldn’t do something like that".

Sadly she did it to him too. And no one could stop it b/c she had people believing she was going to be a great senior pastor and change things.

I’ve watched her run no less than 6 ministers out the door due to her jealousy and manipulative behavior.

Finances are terrible. She over spends. Donations and pledges and membership are way down.

Yet she continues to get her six figure salary. And foster a divided church culture. You are either in or out. In is simply bring a "yes man" to her crazy making schemes.

It’s not a church. It’s become like a cult with a crazy person at the helm.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:30 AM on Saturday, July 2nd, 2022

I don't know how to help you grow a "thicker" skin because I've never had that problem caring about what people I have no respect for say or think about me. Maybe become more confident or know your own worth a little better. Maybe. Personally, I've never given a F what the flying monkeys have thought of me because I didn't think much of them. It's only ever bothered me if someone I truly respected got a bad impression of me and that's been very rare.

What I can say is that I know from personal experience that your real friends and people of integrity won't believe the BS. They will already see you for who you really are. And for everyone else they can just F off. Know who your tribe are and keep it tight.

It never ceases to amaze me when flying monkeys actually try to talk shit about people I respect. It makes THEM look small and petty. It doesn't change my opinion one bit of those they are trying to bad mouth because I see right through it.

I spent 21 years in the Army. I've buried friends and have several combat tours under my belt. What I'm saying is that perspective can also give you thicker skin because you see how petty and trivial the gossip is from flying monkeys. Obviously, you don't want to be putting your friends in body bags, but maybe step back from the situations like this and put it in perspective. If you, or a loved one, were diagnosed with cancer today, would you really give a shit about gossip by people you don't even respect or care about?
Hope that helps.

[This message edited by StillLivin at 5:33 AM, Saturday, July 2nd]

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