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Dostl10

Sorry you're in this shitty situation. My situation is kinda similar, but my wife is probably not gonna come back. So I'll be going down the D road as well. Just crazy how these moms just ditch their kids.

Love will make you do crazy things. Like rationilizing as my ww said that she "would be better as a part time parent."

Even if she has not actually seen a lawyer she could be being coached by her boyfriend (or other) to position herself as best as possible

Needless to say, if she stupidly expects you to hang on while she gets her ducks in a row with her boyfriend, then use that to your strategic advantage. Move quickly to file.

Dos, I'm so sorry you are here. I feel like you're doing really well with your NC though.

One thing that might help is to keep all of your posts together so that we're not bouncing back and forth between them.

[This message edited by Wool94 at 9:43 AM, May 8th (Monday)]

How fast can the lawyer have her served at work?

She thinks she has you both on the line. Let her see you taking action. Ask for primary custody and let her have limited visitation due to abandonment. You can always negotiate down by t hard for fathers to negotiate up. Aim high and then settle for a little less.

I just need to pay rest of the retainer. I just need to get it into a new account so my ww cant see. Should be tomorrow.

I handed in some paperwork to my attorney this morning and just sent him my parenting plan. Sucks, but the right thing to do for sure. Hopefully,I will get the rest of the money to him tomorrow and off we go.

Spoke to WW last night about her time with the kids. She's been staying at a friends. She normally works weekends but she took this weekend off for mother's day. She want to take the kids to a hotel for the night Saturday. I told her I'd think about it. I don't want to alienate her as I know the kids would enjoy it and they are the most important thing. I'm just not sure. She also tried to talk to me about some relationship work she's been doing which I met with ok, yup, uh huh, I'm glad we got the kids figured out bye.

Congrats on taking positive steps. You'll be getting stronger every day.

I met a woman once who actually told me "The mom thing wasn't really my thing. I'm much better as a part time parent." This was her explaining how one day after watching some stupid TV show that was preaching life is short, you owe it to yourself to put your happiness first, blah blah blah, that she walked out on her husband and two toddlers and never looked back. We were in a bar and had met. Truth be told, I was looking to hook up with her because she was really attractive but after hearing that I brushed her off big time. Her exterior was beautiful. Her soul was black as midnight. I was shocked that a parent could say such a thing. Sorry to t/j but your "part time mom" thing triggered that memory.

[This message edited by CincyKid at 7:18 AM, May 9th (Tuesday)]

She's been staying at a friends. She normally works weekends but she took this weekend off for mother's day. She want to take the kids to a hotel for the night Saturday.

I can almost see the gears in her head spinning.The mistrust in me says this doesn't sound right. I would really scrutinize this. Sounds like she is spending Mothers day with the BF and maybe having the kids meet him?

I woke up about 3 am thinking and and I thought it last night as well. They know him already. He's been in their presence numerous times over the years.

She's ruined your marriage, I believe I would have a little spite and ruin her Mother's Day. She only works 2 days a week, have her pick another day.

[This message edited by Marriagesucks at 7:44 AM, May 9th (Tuesday)]

I think that you shouldn't do or agree to anything until you've had a chance to speak with your lawyer.

She works 5 days a week. Her job requires her to work weekends. She was able to take this weekend off a long time ago.

so when are you going to have her served ? Today ?

So today, I guess, is the day. I have the remaining balance to pay my attorney. Need to sign off on some papers and I would imagine she'll be served at work next week. My heart is breaking for me and more importantly for my two amazing kids. I never once thought we'd be here, but here we are.

You will see in your future, standing up for you and your kids is always the right thing to do.

Many even look back and think how much better things are with out a selfish spouse dragging them down. Good mothers simply don't destroy their families so they can be someone else's mistress.

[This message edited by Chappie at 11:27 AM, May 10th (Wednesday)]

Dost - I hope today is a good day for you. You are strong! You can do this! Your kids are so lucky to have you looking out for them. They are going to need you more than ever. Thinking of you!!

Its a day, not happy or sad, just a day of necessity. She is here right now visiting our son and the picking up dd from school. But then she will just walk out again tonight.