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I watched my children and my parents together and saw the love and affection they share. If my w and i died today i know my kids would be in great hands.

I missed yesterday because I was so busy. I had a long run and then it was time to start putting up the tree. So, anyway, I will do two today:

I am thankful for my husband's love and compassion with me and that because of it I will have another Christmas in our home with our family. I am keenly aware that I forfeited that right 2.5 years ago, and that my husband's grace is a force I will never understand but will always treasure.

I am also thankful for Jesus, he never left my side through all the pain and struggles over these years and through his grace I know I will always have love I don't always deserve. It's not lost on me the ways my husband has exemplified him in his forgiveness and love towards me.

Today and every day I am grateful for being able to find that reservoir of things that I can feel gratitude for when I think about them. Infidelity is a wrecking ball, and those among us here who have lived on either side of the destruction, the Waywards and Betrayed alike, know the darkness it brings upon us. It needs no further description, suffice to say. Finding little seeds of gratitude is enough to illuminate the darkness, focus the mind and make space for healing to begin. While I’m certainly not the first in this thread to express my gratitude for everyone’s contributions here, both great and small alike, I consider my experience here in reading countless threads that run through people’s lives as providing me the wisdom I could never have had navigating alone. Good stuff. Thank you, all.

Today I am thankful for short work weeks! I am off after today until Monday. I look forward to spending some quality time with my husband and we will see our kids in a couple of days. And, I am looking forward to having a weekend to loaf, if I could really talk myself into that. I am bad at loafing, but I am going to try.

I am grateful for our friends. Our Thanksgiving tradition is to get together with 4 or 5 of our friends and do a pot luck. The host makes the turkey and the rest of us cook and bake everything else. It’s loads of fun! Besides the adults they are around 15 to 20 kids, there are usually Disney movies playing for the little ones and football for everyone else, yummy food (and sooo much of it!) lively conversation, drinks (beer and wine) and really just an all around wonderful time.

I am also grateful that we are not hosting this year! I love having everyone, but the cleanup is a nightmare. It takes me the rest of the weekend to get the house back in order!

I'm taking vacation from work this week and it's been freakin' great! Got a few "chores" knocked off the list. I have a torn rotator cuff and I find out which surgery I'm getting next Wednesday so I'm working at a different pace. It's actually kind of nice - it's been relaxing.

Drank some damn fine bourbon and smoked a really good cigar just now while watching a puppy play in leaves I need to rake. I'd rake them, but I'm going to let him romp in them a bit longer Life is good.

Today I am thankful for sleeping in and Coziness. I am a home body by nature and could spend days on end in my house doing various things. I am thankful I am gearing up for a big chunk of time that I can stay home. Decorate for Christmas. Take long baths and read. Get in a few long runs. And hang out with h. Much needed break. Happy Thanksgiving to all!

I love this thread! Today i am grateful that i have a loving wife and stepkids i get to spend the holidays with. I am grateful for every day i get to spend with the people I've wronged.

Today I am grateful for all the kind words of support, for four pounds, for vital stats that have stabilized, and for my daughter at home for Thanksgiving.

Today I am grateful for...

- Another chance with my BH, he is still here, he is still talking to me

- To fall asleep with him right beside me, and hear him breathe

- I am still working, I have a job that pays for my part of the mortgage, even though its not the best job, its still a job

- being introduced to SI (through my BH), this forum has helped in so many ways...kept me moving forward on the right path to being R material

- finding the courage to do a polygraph, even though I really wasn't worried about it, I am grateful I was able to do it, and my BH spent the time to put together his questions and worked with the polygrapher.

- I am just grateful that I see just how much I can be grateful for, not regret what I don't have

T/j but i am very happy for you and your daughter BSR ❤️ I hope you have/had a wonderful Thanksgiving

I’m grateful for a quiet Thanksgiving at home. I’m grateful for my BH being a part of it. I am grateful for the chance to grow, learn, and change from this. Im grateful that he believes I am capable of being a better person. I’m grateful he has been my rock as I’ve mourned the loss of my grandmother. I’m grateful that we worked out together tonight, for the first time ever. (I hope we stick to it.)

I am thankful for:

- LifeDestroyer for starting this uplifting post

- My BW for staying with me, standing by me, helping me, and for being the smart successful amazing wonderful beautiful woman that she is

- My kids who are all awesome and incredible

- The discovery of my cheating ways, which has led to an ongoing journey of self-criticism and reflection and learning and growing

- My health, which gives me the ability to play with my kids and maintain things and go on physically demanding adventures

- Freedom, and the people who secure that freedom, by protecting and serving our country and communities (military, police, firefighters, etc)

The help that those on this forum have given me, even those that have given me a 2x4 across the head as I certainly needed it at times, thank you.

That it is Friday

The weeks leading up to winter break are always crazy. One down, two more to go!

That SI made the forums all festive! I like watching the little dancing icons 🎅🤶🎄⛄🦌🎁

New here...unfortunately - but I do have something to be thankful for

My husband, who I betrayed so horribly, that he has, for the moment, extended me so much grace. I am humbled.

And for my God, whose grace and compassion towards me is unfathomable.

These boards, for helping me know what reality is in spite of the onslaught of manipulation and gaslighting I endure. Thank you SI!

[This message edited by 3greatkids at 12:07 PM, December 14th (Saturday)]

I am grateful for.....

My gorgeous, happy and loving DD

My amazing family and friends

My work and supportive colleagues

My dreams and what abilities I have in making these come true

My health

My strength, despite the shit sandwich I’ve just been forced to take a bite from

The ability to smile and laugh

NB x

I am grateful to my partner for his grace and mercy. We continue to travel and make great memories together.

I am grateful for mY daughter for the added joy she brings into our lives.

I am grateful for this community in helping me save my family and myself.

This holiday is all about family and giving in my area, and is makes me so appreciative and lucky that I still have one to share it with.

[This message edited by MrsSouthAfrica at 1:35 AM, December 15th (Sunday)]