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Casablanca in a way. She thinks her H is dead so she has an A with Rick. Somewhat diluted but she ends up with her H.

She’s the One with Edward Burns and Jennifer Aniston. Edward Burns has an emotional connection with his Ex-fiancée Cameron Diaz after becoming married. His wife noticed it. But nothing physical happens between them but the W is ready to bail.

Good movie. But they end up (Edward burns and his wife) together happy.

The Story of Us is about a couple who reconciles their issues after a trial separation, including an EA. My WH and I watched it last year and he got very emotional and wept.

Begin Again with Kira Knightly, Adam Levine and Mark Ruffalo.

Great movie-Mark Ruffalo and his wife are separated because of an A. Doesn't really say whether they reconcile but it seems like they do.

The best part of the movie is that he finds himself again (Mark Ruffalo). Really speaks to authenticity.

I haven't watched it since DDay, but funny thing (or not so funny), my WH and I went to see it in the theater when he was cheating on me.

That being said, it's not too triggery...at least from what I can remember.

Presumed Innocent, comes to mind. While the bs does get away with murder it appears they stay married. Does a great job of portaying the emotions of the bs. I would not consider it true R, but as with all movies we only see the start of the ending. Meet the Foster's? The one with Hugh Grant, Sarah Jessica Parker and Sam Elliott. Maybe a little more of a rugsweeping story. They stay together.

There are very few movies that do a good job of portraying R, because R doesn't have the same entertainment value.

I once loved Love Actually. Still can't watch it. At the time my fwh was deep in several A's and even said "well, she shouldn't have looked in his pocket." Boy that should have been a huge red flag for me. Instead, I was just pissed at him. I will probably never be able to watch it again.

Now, my fwh is very sensitive to movies and what might trigger me. In R, we have been able to have very frank, open and honest conversations about triggers and how to deal with them. He continues to make sure he expresses his remorse and has owned what a jerk he was previously.

Unfaithful...they seemed to be headed toward R in the end.

No, wait...

He murdered her AP and will probably spend the rest of his life in jail.

Maybe that's not a good example.

Still a partially happy ending.

Funny, I always saw that ending with Alan Rickman's character in the airport as her meeting him with the kids, but not being IN a relationship with him anymore.

But honestly haven't watched it again since Dday over 3 years ago. Can't.

Maybe someday I will again. I don't know. I can say that I don't feel the need to turn off everything A related now. WH will go to change a radio station or a tv show if something he thinks is triggery pops up. I've started telling him there is no need to, for two reasons. 1. I'm tired of trying to avoid it. It's everywhere we go. 2. He seems to get the impression that by changing the channel away from the trigger, he's fixed it. Meanwhile I'm still sitting there stinging...

Wait...

Richard Gere didn't get away with it, did he?

At the end they were dreaming of what they might could do, but you could tell they were just fantasizing.

They were parked in front of the police station.

You mean not everyone thinks he was fixin' to go inside and turn himself in???

The Big Sick - it's not the main story line but it is in there. Also I absolutely loved that movie, funny and sweet and bittersweet and happy. Also even with the characters that were dealing with the aftermath of infidelity being SO much like me and my husband it was not triggery for me.

Now everyone, don’t shoot me, but “Bridges of Madison County” sees the marriage continue until the faithful spouse dies. Seems her hubby knew she had “needs” he couldn’t fulfill, or something like that, but we are led to believe he never finds out his wife had an affair. I think the kids carry all the angst of the affair, with the daughter being sympathetic and the son upset with his mother for cheating. In the end, the daughter gets courage to possibly leave her husband, while the son regains new appreciation for his wife.

I cried sitting in the theater, alone, the first time I saw that movie. I was in a passionless, communicationless marriage at the time, and I hate to admit it, but that movie offered me an escape. I just might have have succumbed to the right “opportunity,” I was that unhappy. That movie told my story right up to the time Robert Kincaid showied up: hubby changing the radio station to farm reports, the quiet expectations of dinner on the table, the absence of fulfilled dreams because of the sacrifices made when raising kids. I haven’t watched it since d-day, however. Even though she was not purely deceitful like many of our waywards were, it is too triggering to see the excitement and passion in contrast to the steady faithfulness of the betrayed spouse.

“The World According To GARP.”

They reconcile.

OneInTheSame...

To tell the truth, I always had the feeling the H really knew, but for the reason you stated - knowing he couldn't fulfill her needs - he didn't "let on" that he knew.

But I could be wrong...I have always believed that Rhett Butler came back to Scarlet O'Hara in "Gone With the Wind".

Just watched "Begin Again" - enjoyed the movie a lot. Both main characters face infidelity. Didn't get triggered by it, but then both cases while catalyst, weren't looked into much.

BTW -"Lost Stars" is now my favorite song:)

[This message edited by RaindropsTricks at 12:15 PM, March 22nd (Thursday)]

Sacred vow. It's on prime instant video if you're interested. They reconcile after his affair but there's not necessarily a happy ending.