InkHulk ( member #80400) posted at 1:00 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2024
A month delay in response? And here I had allowed myself to hope that you might have been convinced of something 
I don’t have anything to add to the topic at hand. I will just say that there are more possibilities to the hurting head scenario than the other person is self delusional. You might want to ask your gut to be a little more open minded than that.
People are more important than the relationships they are in.
Formerpeopleperson ( new member #85478) posted at 2:15 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2024
"The trust I am talking about is WHOM you choose to be vulnerable with."
I like that, but I have to ask, is choosing to be vulnerable with an AP trust, or hope.
[This message edited by Formerpeopleperson at 2:18 AM, Saturday, November 23rd]
It’s never too late to live happily ever after
WontBeFooledAgai ( member #72671) posted at 2:43 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2024
Well InkHulk I am glad to see my posts still get the party going
If I need to be more open-minded, my gut would have told me that too.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:46 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2024
Member to member -
If you are a BS saying your WS didn't trust their AP, then you are singing quite a happy tune.
Maybe, maybe not.
There's a difference between confronting the contradictions in someone's way of thinking and simply disbelieving what that person says about themself. You can tell a WS that they trusted their ap more than they trusted their BS, but that doesn't make it so.
My W was terrified that ow would out her to her supervisor. She was also terrified of ow because ow threatened to make my life and that of our son (800 miles away!) miserable. You can tell me my W trusted ow more than me, but it doesn't make it so.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
