I don’t think there’s a way to avoid it,
Of course there is. Don't do it. Own your statements, your pain and your happiness. Let others decide what fits them from your experience.
The very act of coming to a place where we’re trying to find greater understanding by finding similar experience practically mandates categorization.
I understand that. But the dichotomy of WS and BS on this website is wrong when it comes to the generalizations.
If all that’s common with infected patients is that they’re infected, we never find the underlying mechanism of contagion.
Which is exactly my point. WS/BS are equivalent to "infected". They are far too broad a term to be useful. Again. There is some value in some generalizations. Like this: there are many victims of abuse that become abusers, many victims of abuse are perpetrators of abuse. For example, every time I read here "the mind of a WS" I lol irl. I see the same patterns of abuse with many of the betrayed spouses that I see in cheaters.
I'm not sure what you took from my "Please don't" request. I meant, please don't generalize.
I try very hard, with every post I make, to own my statements and my experience. It would do people good to remember that this website, the "advice" given here is neither professional nor personal. It can be good advice. And I think on some of the technical aspects it's good. But (and I've noticed it with my first few posts) I think it becomes too easy to project personal pain unto others.