Coxy9389 (original poster new member #83954) posted at 9:55 PM on Monday, September 15th, 2025
Hi all. It's been a while since I posted. It's been just over two and half years since DD.
My wife left her job a year a go which reduced a lot of anxiety because they worked together.
We have finished MC and both our IC session and things are definitely going in the right direction.
I still think about it every day. Doesn't help that I have to drive past his house on the way to my work. Got lots of silly little triggers I can't seam to clear. But I can get rid of the bad thoughts pretty quick now.
I see the AP every couple of months. Want to soo badly pull over and talk to him. Tell him how much he ruined us. Check the information my wife told me to make sure it's all right. But don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he's in my head.
Looking forward to a day or week even ware I don't think about it or get triggered.
Does make you second think your self. If you made the right decision to stay and fight or not.
Sorry. Just abit of a rant
Thanks
Possumlover ( member #85336) posted at 6:19 PM on Tuesday, September 16th, 2025
Yup, just passed the 3 year mark and I’m in the same boat, so to speak. I think about it way too often, it’s consuming me sometimes.
I too look forward to a day or week where I don’t think about it/get triggered. I’m not sure it will ever go away. I am also not entirely sure that R was best for me and I will not say "never" to a D until I can truthfully say ILY and I forgive you. There was so much with his LTA that I’m not sure he deserves to be forgiven. But I’m trying!
Best of luck to you with your R!
DD 8/7/22
Together since 1990
Married in 1997
2 amazing sons
