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Jdisco (original poster new member #82964) posted at 11:11 AM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
well its 3am.
My WW has been spending a lot of time with a particular group of friends. They drink and party and she is happy to do nothing else but...
I joined her this evening with the intent of picking her up and driving her home but instead I asked if she was having fun with her friends and did she want to continue.. but could we go home by 10pm. So I had a few as well.
My wife and I drink often. But by the time we made it home - feelings were hurt and anger was expressed.
and now, I couldn't tell you the first reason why. I can't recall but small pieces of our conversation and I don't remember what caused the big blow up that had her trying to exit the moving car.
I'm not typicall a black out drunk. And I'm sure I would be well advised to stay away from the sauce,
but is this something that happens? angry outbursts and you don't even remember why?
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 1:37 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
Before you even attempt reconciliation, you and your WW need to address your drinking problems. It is very serious that you got behind the wheel in a condition where you have to ask these questions.
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 2:26 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
Jdisco, since you asked, I will share this thread of mine with you to show you what are the physical symptoms of the A on the BS.
"What physical symptoms of the A did you have"
https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/topics/597986/what-physical-symptoms-of-a-did-you-have/?ap=1
Also, since you are experiencing so much trauma in your life, I would highly recommend that you and your WW dont drink so regulary.
You are going through intense trauma because your DDay was Feburary of this year.
Alcohol and intense trauma doesnt mix well.
One day at a time.
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
I mean no offense, but I’m honestly shocked that you drove in that condition. Are neither of you afraid of getting arrested for DUI or killing yourselves or someone else?
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
Wiseoldfool ( member #78413) posted at 3:16 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
We figured out by trial and error that we could either drink or discuss the affair but not both.
Every secret you keep with your affair partner sustains the affair. Every lie you tell, every misunderstanding you permit, every deflection you pose, every omission you allow sustains the affair.
Jdisco (original poster new member #82964) posted at 3:56 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
Thanks Wiseoldfool I think that's sage advice.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:13 PM on Sunday, March 5th, 2023
Drinking was not my friend after DDAY. I would LOSE MY MIND and normally I didn’t drink much or go crazy when drinking. Cut back for now.
And please use Uber or a cab when you do drink. A DUI or manslaughter charge will not improve matters.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
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