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If you're in the very early stages with someone - as in, have only been talking every few days for about a month, have only gone out once or twice, and haven't had any physical contact - would you have expected any acknowledgement of Valentine's Day?

If so, what would you have expected? A card? Small gift? A "Happy Valentines Day" text or call?

If there wasn't any acknowledgement, would you take that a sign that the other party wasn't very interested in taking things further?

I would take it as a sign that I need to keep my options open and continue to enjoy life. I would not feel rejected nor valued, and I would not spend much time focused on this R. Keep doing you.

[This message edited by OwningItNow at 5:44 AM, February 15th (Monday)]

I would have expected at least an acknowledgment. Nothing at all doesn’t seem...very promising to be honest :(

I have known this guy for six weeks and we talk regularly and meet at least once a week. Absolutely nothing physical has happened. He still acknowledged Valentine’s Day and got me a bottle of wine, which I liked because it is quite a neutral present and doesn’t imply anything.

Obviously everyone is different and I have met guys who despise Valentine’s Day and shun it on purpose. But in the early stages...at least a text wouldn’t have gone amiss!

Definitely keep your options open...

I had a lunch date on Saturday. We had a very nice time, but due to (his) religious reasons, we are in the friend zone as my divorce is not finalized. He texted me Happy Valentine's day yesterday. I thought it was sweet.

If I had been seeing someone for a month, I would not expect any kind of a gift or card. A simple Happy Valentine's day text would be enough.

As Skeeter said, continue to keep your dating options open. Don't look too deeply into this. If you are feeling strongly for him, maybe try to dial it back a bit, as he may not be feeling the same way, or he may just have a slower timeline.

I've been in a nice active friendship with a lady for about 6 months. The friendship only developed into a more intimate relationship over the past month. I've been very straightforward about not making romantic gestures because as I told her, I don't want to completely fall head over heels with her (but that it's likely too late for that because I have). She wished me a happy V day and I wished her a happy Palentine's day.

If, however, Valentine's day would have fallen in the first 6 weeks of our friendship, I likely would have said nothing about it. I was too scared and had absolutely no confidence in myself in that way. My challenge had absolutely nothing to do with her - even though I was already interested...

[This message edited by countrydirt at 7:44 AM, February 17th (Wednesday)]

I think it could be mentioned. It’s kinda the elephant in the room. You can mention your staying in What are they doing? Normal conversation. You can mail a generic considerate card. Not mushy. There are times we give valentines to family. Neighbors or friends. It’s ok to be in this category in the beginning.

Not mentioning makes it a bigger deal. Doubt. Awkward. A rejection that might not be a rejection.

We were iced in. A phone call can be nice.

The friendship only developed into a more intimate relationship over the past month.

T/J: Ooooh, Countrydirt, how did I miss this? (Bleep runs back to countrydirt's thread to catch up).