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ow sighting

zebra25 posted 11/23/2020 17:20 PM

Ugh. OW sighting.

DD was showing me something on Facebook and apparently she is friends with OW's niece. As I was scrolling I saw a picture of OW. DD knows nothing about the affair.

It's been a long time and I don't think about her much anymore. Seeing her picture did give me a sick, gut punched feeling.

She is a smug, unapologetic lying piece of crap.

I'm a little disappointed that this is bothering me but it is.

The1stWife posted 11/23/2020 17:30 PM

Of course it will bother you. Thatís to be expected.

But hopefully you moved on quickly.

BentandBroken posted 11/23/2020 19:13 PM

Don't beat up on yourself. Of course it's hurtful! I have had the good fortune to NOT know what my xWH's current AP looks like. At some point I'm sure I will come across a picture or, heaven please help me, run into them in person. I pray for strength if/when that happens.

Very sorry you had to see that. And I completely understand the gut punch. You are forever better. Integrity is irredeemable for the cheater and the worthless AP. Yet it's priceless and you still have it!

Hard as it is, maybe try to focus on that. (((big hug)))

zebra25 posted 11/24/2020 10:58 AM

Thank you for your kind words.

I thought by now my reaction would have been more indifference and less visceral.

I guess I'm human. I still think she is a gross, immoral, lying, selfish piece of cheating poo.

Thanks again for the support. This isn't something to share over zoom with friends and family.

JulyDD posted 11/24/2020 11:32 AM

I am also totally understanding of why you felt the way you did. Good grief, it's hard! I have only seen FB pics of my H's AP but she also looks smug, arrogant and like a total B. Not to mention a mean girl.

I'm sorry you saw that but know that many of us hear understand that gut punch feeling. Mine is there in spades. I am hopeful for the day I don't feel that way.


IronStitches posted 11/24/2020 11:35 AM


Here's a suggestion - this is so childish but it's stupidly fun.
Take a picture of the picture of the OW and then do terrible things to the photo on your phone. You might actually get some laughs out of it. You get to be immature and get some of those feelings out - no one gets hurt. It's a sort of release.

zebra25 posted 11/24/2020 16:44 PM

Thank you for understanding.

I'm not above harmless childish acts. Whatever helps!!

Shortly after dday I copied ow's picture and taped it over my head on one of our wedding portraits and placed it on my husband's pillow.

Inshreds posted 11/25/2020 14:24 PM

I see the OW and former BFF around town also. Small town so..... It is so hard! Still. She feels no remorse, nothing. Acts normal, smiles and laughs. I want to either throw up or punch her. ugh

gmc94 posted 11/25/2020 14:26 PM

Shortly after dday I copied ow's picture and taped it over my head on one of our wedding portraits and placed it on my husband's pillow.
I dunno, but a big part of me wants to file this away as "what to do when you want to punch your WS but know it's wrong"

Thanks for the chuckle.

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