One of my favorite quotes I have seen here on SI. I wish I could remember whose tagline it is.
“Don’t Cling to a Mistake Just Because You Spent a lot of Time Making it.” — Aubrey De Graf
I had a friend who I had known since I was 6. Over 40 years. But it was often filled with strife. She'd get heavy into drugs, screw me over, and we wouldn't talk for a few years. But I always just let it go. I mean, friends since childhood, right?
Yeah. So the last time was a few years back. The usual song & crazy dance blah blah blah.
Only this time, she decided that 20 years was long enough to keep a secret and had told me that she slept with my ex several years ago. At first, it was like, Big deal. I don't care about him, he's an abusive POS, and ive moved on.
But it was the lying. And the fact that she has herpes and never told me through 3 fucking pregnancies. Herpes is no big deal, unless it could potentially hurt my babies. I'd stake someone out in the desert and peel their skin off.
I have a complicated imagination LOL
Anywho... I started thinking about how if I had met her TODAY, would we still be friends?
Absolutely not.
I was very polite when I told her that she needed professional help, that I could not help her, and that I had nothing left to say and no interest in continuing our friendship.
It was very liberating to not have that drag in my life anymore.
So let me ask you, if you met your friend today, would you want to be friends with her?