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 16forever (original poster member #37255) posted at 11:28 PM on Saturday, August 1st, 2020

Me and my WS are doing individual counseling Iam see a therapist who deals with trauma both from the same place about 2 weeks ago he told me his councilor gave him her number so if he needed he could text her aside from there every other sessions . I have never heard of this being done Before anybody heard of this ?

Me:40
Him:45
3 awesome kids and 2 grandsons

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apache ( member #74923) posted at 11:50 PM on Saturday, August 1st, 2020

I have a friend whose wife is a counselor, I believe individual trama, like lost a loved one etc.

She has taken calls for years from clients at odd hours.

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ct528 ( member #24510) posted at 12:10 AM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

My WH texts with his IC (male).

Me: BW, 44
Him: WH, 42
Married 5 years, working hard on R.
Dday 4/1/2020- 2 month affair

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 16forever (original poster member #37255) posted at 12:31 AM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

She is female I guess I just thought it was odd but if it’s something they do then I guess won’t be worried I just thought we pay 35$ Per visit for his biweekly visits and I still go weekly why would they let you just text when ever and not be paid for it

Me:40
Him:45
3 awesome kids and 2 grandsons

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HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 1:01 AM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

I think this is pretty standard practice. From what I understand, it's not to be used frequently. It's more like in an emergency situation. For example, suicidal ideation, abusive event, etc.

My counselor has a separate cell phone number that is used for her clients, and I can text her there. I try to be very respectful of her time, and I typically only text her regarding scheduling changes.

But for example, my daughter had tested covid positive, and I was undergoing testing to see if I was positive, but we didn't have another session for 2 more weeks. So my therapist asked me to text her to let her know what happened with my test so she wouldn't be concerned.

I have a friend who is a therapist who also has a separate cell for her clients and responds to them frequently. Again, I think it's more for clients who are enduring some sort of active crisis, not for just random thoughts and musings.

BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction

Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.

Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 1:32 AM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

My IC says either text her or FB message her if I need her between sessions.

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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OwningItNow ( member #52288) posted at 2:12 AM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

I have never had an IC offer texting as a manner of working through issues. It's used for scheduling only. It is very surprising to me as advice is indeed their monetary livelihood. During a crisis, my IC says to go to the E.R.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:23 PM on Sunday, August 2nd, 2020

My experience has been that infrequent phone calls for 10-15 minutes have not been billed.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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standinghere ( member #34689) posted at 9:33 AM on Monday, August 3rd, 2020

It depends upon where you are and the counselor. Some of it can definitely be problematic.

In some fields, the providers are very open about their numbers and texts for simple questions. Phone calls are reasonable.

However, in the United States, texting is a HIPAA violation unless it uses an end to end, user to user, encrypted method. So general texting on phone is NOT compliant, nor is gmail or any other general email system, and I know this for a fact. The company I work for has had this battle for years with our providers, and they simply don't get it, yet you can sit at a McDonalds with software on your computer and harvest every single text sent by everyone in the building, and read them in real time, unless the users are sending and receiving encrypted messages.

FBH - Me - Betrayal in late 30's (now much older)
FWS - Her - Affair in late 30's (now much older )
4 Children
Her - Love of my life...still is.
Reconciled BUT!

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