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How did you stop arguing, minimizing, defending and justifying?
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Zugzwang posted 2/7/2020 21:31 PM
I’m responsible for fucking everything yet nobody wants to give me any constructive fucking help or guidance decide just to tell me how fucked up I am. Everybody’s got all the fucking problems and none of the solutions it’s vague isms like don’t argue don’t minimize don’t justify don’t defend.
Oh lord. Missed this one. So, everyone else is responsible for you failing to choose to change. Why? Because they aren't guiding you by your hand what to say every minute of the day? Here is the thing. If you want to change you can do and you will figure it out and find the way...because everyone can change if they really want to and mean it. You want a step by step way to do it with the least amount of work and as easy as possible without really doing it. Period. 8 years man. This is where you still are. 8 years later. The things they are telling you isn't vague. It is work and you refuse to figure out how to do it. There isn't a step by step guide. We all figured it out at some point because we wanted to, we really wanted to. Posters have suggested new ICs. Posters have suggested videos. Posters have given specific ways how to listen and not be defensive. Posters have told you books to read. What have you really done? Gave excuses.
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