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SMSA925 (original poster member #43955) posted at 1:53 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
Its been quite a while since DDay 1 and Im healed, even if the M didnt survive
(But that was really due to DDay2). I was just on FB posting a pic of my sweet puppy when a friend request came across from guess who? OW from DDay #1. Now, I dont know her. Never met her, we never spoke or texted. Although OBS and I spoke ALOT. But that was years ago. And they are D now.
I dont know what to feel. Its like I just saw an alien run across my back yard. Hmmmm
Me: BS; b. 1958
Him: WH b. 1952
Together since 1982, Married 20yrs at DDay#1
DDay April 17, 2014; DD#2 2/15
My ducks lined up, life is good!
Justgetitoverwith ( member #70459) posted at 4:34 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
Accept and ask her what she wants? I'd be soo curious. But then again, I've always been nosy :). Do you think she's finally matured and grown a conscience?
Smjsome1 ( member #60691) posted at 6:03 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
Too bad you can’t do a little note with your rejection
“Sorry ... “ and something politely stating why you wouldn’t be friends with someone like her
me/BW - 50, WH - 54 32 years married
DD1 Aug 5, 2017 - TT, still in contact.
DD2 Aug 30 admitted to 2 1/2 week PA, & 3 1/2 still in contact.
DD 3 - Sept 18 deleted his yahoo
DD4 - Sept 29, so much more. SA
polygraph Oct 20, maybe now we R?
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 1:14 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
WTF?!?!
Let it hang. Even a "decline" will give her attention she doesn't deserve.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 1:20 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
I agree, let it hang. Maybe it will drive her crazy wondering if you have even seen it.
Although deleting it would eliminate you seeing her name while on Facebook.
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
Robert22205https ( member #65547) posted at 1:24 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
The request may not really be from the OW.
Facebook automatically generates friend requests based on a search of your friend list and your friend's list - (since you opened your accounts). And it goes the other way too - she may get a computer generated friend request from you too.
Is the OW friends with someone on your friend list?
SMSA925 (original poster member #43955) posted at 2:01 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
No one, other than WH, knows her or knows about her. Shes blocked on WHs FB, has been since DDay. I checked, still blocked.
After his whole situation got ridiculous my mantra has been "Dont engage the crazy", and its served me well. But Im just so damn CURIOUS! Isnt this how the vampire gets in your house? You need to invite it in?
Oh, well. Thanks for being my sounding board! DELETE!
Me: BS; b. 1958
Him: WH b. 1952
Together since 1982, Married 20yrs at DDay#1
DDay April 17, 2014; DD#2 2/15
My ducks lined up, life is good!
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 2:34 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2019
Facebook automatically generates friend requests
It generates friend suggestions, but I don't think it generates actual friend requests. Sometimes, though, a person's account can be hacked or copied and friend requests are sent to everyone even remotely associated.
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
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