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bpositive posted 5/29/2019 12:35 PM

Hey all -

Haven't been around in a very long time. Life is pretty great.

Today, however, I touched an old wound of seeing what my XH was up to and learned that he's sold the house we bought together. Someone made a joke about leaving the Boulevard of Broken Dreams behind, and UGH. It just kinda brought the pain of the long separation back. And a need a safe, quiet spot to share and unload for a hot second. I was relieved to see that no real mutual friends who know what transpired "liked" or commented on the post.

Trying to refocus my brain now on wonderful marriage I have now, beautiful kiddo, great job. but just a little thrown.

3kids30years posted 5/29/2019 13:43 PM

I'm so sorry that the wound is still sore. Some never really heal, and are always a sore spot.

All you can do is move on - and it Sounds like you have!

Refocus, remember and re-engage with now.

BearlyBreathing posted 5/29/2019 13:52 PM

3kids is right- keep looking forward. That house is in the past. Let it retreat back to the past.

Infidelity is truly the gift that keeps on giving... **sigh**

HalfTime2017 posted 5/29/2019 17:59 PM

I see what Bpositive is saying, its NOT the house, its the fact that someone made a comment about Broken Dreams, which it was b/c of the infidelity. Unfortunately, it will probably stay with you until the day that you die.

Moving on as you have, doesn't mean you get to forget the anguish and sorry that you felt, or the loss that you received b/c of infidelity, that part of your life will be with you. You've been heard.

Maybe just get off of FB or whatever app youre on that you get to see that type of post with your EX. I've deleted her and her entire family from my FB and I'm not on social media anyway. That way, you don't have some of those reminders.

inconnu posted 5/29/2019 19:32 PM

It sucks when the past sneaks in and throws us a curve. Especially when we don't expect to feel anything about that past any more.

That comment about the broken dreams, remember this - you created new dreams and made them happen. That's pretty damn amazing. Just like you.

bpositive posted 5/30/2019 11:58 AM

Hi innconu!

Yes - Half Time is right. It's not the house. It's the comment on BLVD of Broken dreams. He's entitled to his version of events, even if they are not the right ones. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

Honestly, if I were in his shoes, it has to feel good to let go of the last reminder of our marriage.