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J707 posted 5/12/2019 12:35 PM

To all you kickass wonderful Mom's out there in SI, Happy Mother's Day! Whether you've been fed the shit sandwich and had to carry on with everyday life while holding strong for yourself and your kids or you've digested that shit sandwich and are stronger and enjoying life post infidelity with your kids! Happy Mother's Day!! As a father, they are my true blessings in my life. Be proud of them and yourself! For me on Father's day I cherish just spending time with them, doesn't matter what we do and I hope you all do the same! Enjoy your day!!

The1stWife posted 5/12/2019 19:51 PM

Thank you. It’s not be given some special treatment and recognized for our hard work. And this goes to the Dads that act as the “moms” too.

Want2BHappyAgain posted 5/12/2019 21:02 PM

Thank you !!!

Pippin posted 5/13/2019 10:25 AM

Happy (belated) Mothers Day to everyone surviving infidelity.

I sent three notes to friends for whom yesterday was a complicated day. (I didn't write these notes, just copied from other sources). Here they are for any SI people who need them.

Note 1
Thinking of you
Mothers who have lost children
Those who have lost mothers
Those with strained mother relationships
Mothers with strained child relationships
Those who have chosen not to be mothers
Those yearning to be mothers

Note 2
Not everyone has a mother. Not everyone has a good relationship with the mother they do have. Not everyone is close to their family. If that's you, I see you. It's completely fine to make a family out of your friends.

Note 3
To those whose mother never quite stepped into the role.
To those whose mothers raised them with great love before departing the earth.
To those whose relationships with their mother doesn't quite fit the mold.
To those who never had a mother to call their own.
To those raised by grandmas and aunties and sister and friends.
To those who are in a space of grief, confusion, frustration or loss.
I'm wishing you a day of gentle self care that brings you wholeness and unmistakable awareness that you are enough.

Edit to remove personal pity party and slight dig at my mother. Also to mention, I can think of a specific SI person for almost every one of the above. And to add, thinking of you: wayward mothers who feel so worthless, hopeless and demoralized that they can't accept the love offered by their husbands and children (noted that love is offered in pain). I'm thinking of a specific person but don't want to call out. Take the love where you find it, and use it to make yourself better.

[This message edited by Pippin at 1:52 PM, May 13th (Monday)]

STLLOST posted 5/13/2019 12:07 PM

Being in a two mom household, Mothers Day this year was extremely hard because the other mom wasn't there. She did come by to take our daughter for breakfast and I basically cried the entire time they were gone. I am grateful I have my daughter but it was a very hard day being without my wife there. Simply a reminder of the shit sandwich my life has become.