"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

Odonna posted 5/10/2019 19:57 PM

How are you doing Dear Girl?

SadEyes0311 posted 5/11/2019 08:33 AM

I am doing great! My graduation was amazing! I have been out celebrating while my STBEH has been flipping out over me going to a few bars and enjoying myself. It has helped to see her and know she is NOTHING. It’s laugh out loud sad that he thinks she is his future. He is second guessing everything.. keeps asking me don’t you want me back?
Lolllll.. no. Post pone the court date for a month he says.
give me until the end of the month and then I’ll end it.
I said ya ok be home by 6 to stay ether kids I have plans tonight’s
Not listening to his bullshit anymore. Save those lies for the idiot who still believes your Prince Charming.

Thank you allll for the Posts! They make so much sense and some of them have me laughing out loud! Lol!!

1Faith posted 5/11/2019 08:44 AM

Congratulations. So very proud and happy for you.

You are amazing and your STBXWH is only going to continue to realize this more and more as you get your strength back.

Head high, shoulders back...you got this !!!

(((hugs)))

fareast posted 5/11/2019 08:45 AM

Congrats to you on graduating and persevering through all of your WH’s crap. You have done an amazing job focusing and keeping it together. Don’t bother checking for Your WH. He’s in your rearview and fading fast. You have been there for your kids when they really needed a stable parent. Good luck.

ChamomileTea posted 5/11/2019 09:21 AM

.. keeps asking me don’t you want me back?

How could you possibly give up the magic that is Him??? Don't you know he's going to have to find another hypotenuse now?

Seriously, great update. I'm so happy for you that you're getting out there and making something good for you and your kids. Good on ya, gal!

Freeme posted 5/11/2019 11:43 AM

He hung up and was yelling at me what did I say to her why did I do that? Was I spiteful or jealous?? He later asked me to message her and tell her it was a lie. I honestly cannot believe how dumb men can be!

That was three days ago... and now it's...

.. keeps asking me don’t you want me back?

yet... he is still not willing to throw OW to the curb. The writing is on the wall. His plans was to string the both of you along for as long as possible. Give him a month, he will ask for another month, another week, until you have spent a year just giving him a bit more time.

You sound great.

redbaron007 posted 5/12/2019 04:24 AM

Congrats on your graduation and dumping the cheater...you will NEVER regret dumping a cheater. EVER. Not one instance here or anywhere of anyone regretting dumping a cheater. Kudos to your decisiveness and boldness!

WhoTheBleep posted 5/12/2019 05:59 AM

give me until the end of the month and then I’ll end it.

Don't you know he's going to have to find another hypotenuse now?

SadEyes, you're not playing this how he planned. He doesn't have 2 women fighting over him! How dare you have boundaries! How dare you enforce them!

Congrats on your graduation!! Keep celebrating. Keep using WH to watch his own kids so you can party. Dress up, look fabulous, be fabulous, wear heels, flip your hair as you walk past him, touch up your lipstick in the mirror. He will come out of his skin.

Oh yeah, and get half his pension. And child support. And Alimony, until your career is established. You've got the world by the balls...and him.

BBBD posted 5/12/2019 07:06 AM

Here’s solid quote
“my love didn't stop you from cheating, it won't stop me from divorcing you because of it".

Shockedmom posted 5/12/2019 07:09 AM

Congratulations! Through all the crap you succeeded in fulfilling a dream. Now take on life without this man who can’t make up his mind. You are worthy of a much better man.

Odonna posted 5/13/2019 11:13 AM

Congratulations! Not just on your graduation, but for taking a firm stand against infidelity. I confess I was worried in the beginning that you might continue to wait it out and get sucked into hell’s limbo with him dangling her in your face and not coming home. I am so proud of you for drawing the line and matching forward. Do you have a job as a nurse lined up yet? What are next steps?

changeneeded posted 5/14/2019 09:59 AM

Cheating Spouse:

"Look, I know you're faking it and you miss me, so.... um.... let's do this: Postpone the divorce, don't file, I mean, and uh, give me until the end of the month, you know, while we get our last sessions in, and... I will come back! Tada! problem solved."

These dumb ass cheaters just can't get over themselves. Your's is a lot better than mine, at least.

Good on you, keep it up, my girl!

homewrecked2011 posted 5/14/2019 10:19 AM

Yeah, I went on thru with the D. I knew he would cheat over and over. At the same time, someone on SI posted they D the wh, then watched his actions. He gave her most everything in the D, he got help for 18 months, THEN she started dating him, THEN they got remarried. The D freed her to be able to see if he was genuine, if he truly cared about her financial situation, the kids, etc.

But for now, celebrate, get the D, enjoy your life! I am so incredibly happy w/o xh’s games. I have 2 sons in college now, they would have been much different if xh had continued to slink around here.

Odonna posted 5/19/2019 15:20 PM

Hey Bright Eyes! How are the celebrations going? How are YOU?!

LCC18 posted 5/20/2019 14:13 PM

Hopefully that makes you realize even more that you are way better off. And pit the young girl because she will be in your shoes within time.

Odonna posted 5/28/2019 06:01 AM

Good morning! You have been quiet for over a week now. How are you doing? Congrats again on your nursing degree. How is the job hunting? Any more crap from AP or your STBXWH?

Just thinking of you!

Hurtstomycore posted 5/28/2019 22:42 PM

I am also a nurse. Congrats!! We need more new nurses. Please focus on your educational success. Next stop? Career success! You have so much to be proud of. This stupid infidelity experience you are going through will not define you. There will be days you think it will or that it is. But it won’t. You are WAY more than that.

Tallgirl posted 5/28/2019 23:32 PM

Congratulations!!!

Great job on handl8ng the AP