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Hobbyist (original poster member #55532) posted at 3:10 AM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
Just need a hug and support. My first serious (3rd relationship since D) new beginning just ended, because of me spiraling out on some thoughts. It truly is the gift that keeps on giving.
We had plans to get married next year.
Sigh.
BH, 30's with 3 beautiful kids. Divorced in 2017 - SO much happier!
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 3:32 AM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
Well that blows. I am truly sorry.
because of me spiraling out on some thoughts
Could this ^^^ be due to some unresolved healing? Perhaps going to IC can help you uncover the source of the "spiraling" so you don't carry it into a new relationship. Just a thought.
I really am sorry though.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Hobbyist (original poster member #55532) posted at 3:40 AM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
Yes, of course that's something I need to work on.
BH, 30's with 3 beautiful kids. Divorced in 2017 - SO much happier!
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:42 AM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
I'm so sorry, Hobbyist. That must be very painful. Hugs to you.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
It truly is the gift that keeps on giving.
So true.
I'm sorry. 
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:19 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 4:39 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
(((Hobbyist)))
Take care of yourself.
Failure is success if we learn from it.
MaryG ( member #48494) posted at 5:52 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
Totally understand and feel for you. I can’t even get as far as a relationship, such is the devastating and probably (for me, anyway) permanent damage of infidelity. It surely is the gift that keeps on giving....
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 7:46 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2019
I’m so sorry Hobbyist. I completely understand. I have struggled terribly with the spinning out and I am six years out.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
OptionedOut ( member #69105) posted at 3:55 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2019
So sorry, Hobbyist. It truly is the gift that keeps on giving. It's like a mental STD. Perhaps talk to a therapist about what happened?
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