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maise posted 3/2/2019 15:29 PM

What do you guys do with your day to fill it with happiness and positivity?

I read online that writing daily gratitude logs is a good idea which I’m definitely going to try. Positive thinking, reaching for your goals, keeping a good social circle, being healthy, and nature are other things I read. I try a few of those but could definitely improve. Then I have the days where I feel bored out of my mind and almost depressed feeling like there’s nothing to do!

So what do you fill your day with to be happy?

**added**
Today is one of those off days for me where I began to feel depressed and bored...I decided to take the kids and I out for a picnic at the park to enjoy each other’s company and nature

[This message edited by maise at 3:30 PM, March 2nd (Saturday)]

onlytime posted 3/2/2019 21:49 PM

I don't try to fill my days with happiness or positivity, I just live my life authentically.

If there is anything I've learned in my life so far, it is that it's not all sunshine and rainbows. It's messy. It can be incredibly painful and confusing. And it's always changing. It's both good AND bad. Happy AND sad.

Personally, I think the emphasis that has been put on positivity and the pursuit of happiness is incredibly unhealthy.

I will leave you with this quote and a mod-approved link to a TED Talk for you to consider...

when we push aside difficult emotions in order to embrace false positivity, we lose our capacity to develop deep skills to help us deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it to be

~ Susan David

"The gift and power of emotional courage" by Susan David

---->https://youtu.be/NDQ1Mi5I4rg

looking forward posted 3/3/2019 15:51 PM

What do you guys do with your day to fill it with happiness and positivity?

IMO, this shouldn't be your focus. You don't find happiness. You can think positively, yes, but overemphasis may bring stress. It's an attitude: is your cup half full or is it half empty. For years, mine was half empty, but I've learned to view it as half full.

You can try "Stillness" (see below).
I'm sure you've experienced "kairos" moments. They just happen. They find you. It could be looking at the beautiful supermoon of a couple of weeks ago, watching the sun rise or set, shopping at the mall and glancing at a newborn in a stroller.
These are my moments of peace and grace. Think of those.

Sadly, my beloved Smudge crossed the rainbow bridge 20 months ago; but I still look at this photo every day and focus myself.

Best Wishes,
lf

TrustedHer posted 3/3/2019 16:49 PM

While I was in IC, my counselor told me to journal daily, and write down what I did each day for self care.

A lot of days, that was nothing at all. But since I knew I'd be writing that at the end of the day, it sort of forced me to at least think about it each day. And even simple things, like affirmations or listening to music or reading fiction gave me something to write; and when I wrote those down, it helped.

tushnurse posted 3/4/2019 15:11 PM

I surround myself with animals. Animals make me happy. People are stoopid generally speaking.