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Just realized!

cantaccept posted 1/1/2019 08:17 AM

Had to post this. Hopefully it gives someone else just a bit of hope that this really does fade into the past.

I was just outside with my dog, just moments ago. It is a warm New Year's day, feels like spring!

I totally missed the date of the last dday! Completely missed it, never entered my mind!

It was December 21st, a Friday night, same as this year. I actually looked at the calendar this morning to see when it actually was. It was a Friday night again.

This year I was busy with my SO and my son, in my new kitchen, baking cookies, laughing, looking forward to the holidays. It was just a good, sweet night!

This is huge for me! I seemed to really struggle with those dates. Each year I would just remember and it seemed a battle to not let them affect me. This one...nothing!

When I realized it just a few moments ago it made me feel so good! I am healing! It really does happen!

Hoping good for all of you and may the memories of pain recede quickly replaced by loving experiences.

WhoTheBleep posted 1/1/2019 08:54 AM

Yaaayy!!! I truly didn't believe I would heal. Ever. But it actually DOES happen!

I'm so happy for you, cantaccept. You deserve all the joy there is in the world.

I.will.survive posted 1/1/2019 13:55 PM

Whoop! Whoop!

It's awesome when a significant date comes and goes without a second thought.

Sounds like you are thriving now!!

nothisfriend posted 1/2/2019 08:47 AM

I did that too! I was so busy going out of town with BF and then going to Hawaii to visit my brother and his family that the anniversary of D-Day went by without noticing it.

I still harbor anger over the whole thing but each day that passes gets easier and easier.

thebighurt posted 1/2/2019 09:20 AM

What a wonderful post, Can! Living proof of how far one can come. Seems like you have a lot going for you now. And... new kitchen? I must have missed something. So happy for you!

deena04 posted 1/2/2019 18:26 PM

Awesome that you missed it! That means you are not bound by that day anymore. Yay!! I only remembered mine this past December on the day before it, and since I've divorced and moved on, it was more like "wow, I feel nothing"....it was peaceful and no longer a threat to my sanity.

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