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Just realized!
cantaccept posted 1/1/2019 08:17 AM
Had to post this. Hopefully it gives someone else just a bit of hope that this really does fade into the past.
I was just outside with my dog, just moments ago. It is a warm New Year's day, feels like spring!
I totally missed the date of the last dday! Completely missed it, never entered my mind!
It was December 21st, a Friday night, same as this year. I actually looked at the calendar this morning to see when it actually was. It was a Friday night again.
This year I was busy with my SO and my son, in my new kitchen, baking cookies, laughing, looking forward to the holidays. It was just a good, sweet night!
This is huge for me! I seemed to really struggle with those dates. Each year I would just remember and it seemed a battle to not let them affect me. This one...nothing! 
When I realized it just a few moments ago it made me feel so good! I am healing! It really does happen!
Hoping good for all of you and may the memories of pain recede quickly replaced by loving experiences.
WhoTheBleep posted 1/1/2019 08:54 AM
Yaaayy!!! I truly didn't believe I would heal. Ever. But it actually DOES happen!
I'm so happy for you, cantaccept. You deserve all the joy there is in the world.
I.will.survive posted 1/1/2019 13:55 PM
Whoop! Whoop!
It's awesome when a significant date comes and goes without a second thought.
Sounds like you are thriving now!!
nothisfriend posted 1/2/2019 08:47 AM
I did that too! I was so busy going out of town with BF and then going to Hawaii to visit my brother and his family that the anniversary of D-Day went by without noticing it.
I still harbor anger over the whole thing but each day that passes gets easier and easier.
thebighurt posted 1/2/2019 09:20 AM
What a wonderful post, Can! Living proof of how far one can come. Seems like you have a lot going for you now. And... new kitchen? I must have missed something. So happy for you!
deena04 posted 1/2/2019 18:26 PM
Awesome that you missed it! That means you are not bound by that day anymore. Yay!! I only remembered mine this past December on the day before it, and since I've divorced and moved on, it was more like "wow, I feel nothing"....it was peaceful and no longer a threat to my sanity.