I’m about 8 months out from DDay.
The past few months have been really hard， a lot of anxiety and depression. During that time, my H was present and available, which is part of why I’m starting to consider R.
But I’m struggling with how it actually feels day to day.
When I’m with him, I still see him as the person who hurt me so deeply. It’s not anger as much as sadness. I don’t feel safe or "in love" — just heavy and sad.
For those of you who are further along in R and feel like it worked (or is working):
What actually helped you get to a better place?
Did the feelings change gradually with consistent effort (check-ins, transparency, etc.), or were there specific moments that shifted things for you?
Besides the basics (like 100% transparency), what made the biggest difference?
What did your WS do — specifically — that helped you heal?
I read some posts and people keep saying the WS has done a lot of work, I'm curious what does that mean specifically?
