Mustang30685 (original poster new member #87113) posted at 9:49 PM on Monday, March 9th, 2026
How were your first few days/weeks after you found out about your spouse's A. I find myself obviously lost and numb . I find it strange I still want to converse with her and still carry some sort of " normality". I had/have a huge problem with validation seeking of my wife . I hate being alone and the thought of Divorce scares the shit out of me. My worry here is if I carry on as normal life , my wife my not seem it a big deal as her life really didn't seem to change . I feel like maybe I need to go quiet. I find myself feeling very lost on weather I want to touch her ( hugs, kisses ,sex ) or compleltey have her stay away from me and sort of just show my pain in a numb out sort of thing at least until I get over the shock and start figuring out how I feel and how I'll deal. To be honest , I still have wants for sex with with her but otherside I have instances where I don't want her near me and her quiet time on her phone in my presence actually irritates me . She knows it's on her to fix , she has fully agreed to That when I said that to her.
Guess I'm just wondering what your first few days and months looked like afer DDay .
