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HNHF, got it.

I went for a job interview one time, and was asked what I was most proud of. I said my marriage, how we had rescued it from the brink. As I was saying this, I wondered if the interviewer was on his third wife. 🤨

As a warning, I feel a lot of WS just think if they do everything right post A the marriage will improve or even the fabled "be better than before". For sure I know there are a lot of people here who say that, but I wonder how many more end up here where I am. My WW, though I guess she probably could be described as FWW now, but I haven’t gotten to that yet, is doing everything right, but it will never wash the stain off.

In fairness, you are still in the thick of the battle. Is the question you want answered whether those who came out with the "better than ever" M experienced the POLF? Whether this is just to be expected or is it an indication that things are off course for that beautiful outcome I know you want?

Ink,

I don’t know if I really had a question. Maybe just starting a discussion. What I like about SI is that people understand the struggle, and sometimes it’s just reassuring to know that what I’m going through is normal.

I know I’m all over the place in this thread. A lot of things hit me hard these last weeks. Hit the two year marker of the end of the A, and a lot of memories came flooding in.

Now that I can breathe a little it’s like my mind just said, "well do you remember what happened on this day two years ago?"

Wow, I didn’t realize our timelines are within a couple weeks of each other.

Anyway, I hope you feel heard, then. I continue to resonate with many things you say, so either we’re both normalish or we’re twinsie crazy

I think you are on the right track to enact some justice against AP that many never get.
Depends on the type of person you are, whether it will make you feel more whole or not.