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crazycatlady (original poster member #12849) posted at 6:59 PM on Monday, May 20th, 2024
Update: While I've never received an answer to the email I sent to her husband, I did see where his band cancelled their gig Friday night due to "unforeseen circumstances". Interesting coincidence or not, I hope her weekend was hell.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:05 PM on Monday, May 20th, 2024
crazycatlady - as the wife of a musician - I know just how much cancelling that gig last minute cost him [both financially and reputation]
If I were a betting person - I'd say "message received"
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades - Children (1 still at home) Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBS 2018 Cease & Desist sent spring 2021"Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
crazycatlady (original poster member #12849) posted at 9:58 PM on Monday, May 20th, 2024
Chaos, that was awesome. I needed that.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 12:33 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2024
Crazycatlady
This is coming from a dog-person so take it at whatever value you place on it...
Let go of the OW and her husband...
The original problem in this thread was that she was intervening in your life. You dealt with that in a great decisive way.
After that – just leave them be.
If you saw the notification for the ban by coincidence – fine. But if you are actively looking them up on social media or whatever... Don’t. Don’t let them live rent-free in your brain.
View them as you would dog-shit you just stepped in. You might spend some minutes cursing us dog-people in general and then maybe a minute wiping your sole on some grass. After that you might take better care where you step, but you wouldn’t walk around looking for dog-shit to not step in.
That’s it... I’m out adjusting the sprinkler to keep the cats away from the feeding birds in my garden! 
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
crazycatlady (original poster member #12849) posted at 4:00 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2024
Bigger, you are wise. They are crap. I am a retired history teacher though with an excellent memory and innate ability to see causes and effects. My intuition is creepy too. It’s hard to let it go but it has been 18 years and I have mostly done so unless she tries to contact. That alone brings out the best and worst in me. This will pass. Just like gas.
As for animals, I love them all. Dogs, cats, birds, spiders (well not the poisonous ones.) I prefer them to humans.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
Topic is Sleeping.
