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Is this the plain of lethal flatness?

Topic is Sleeping.
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VezfromTaz ( member #80815) posted at 6:42 AM on Monday, February 26th, 2024

It's called anhedonia. Could be symptom of depression or some other medical issue. Talk to your dr.

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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 4:48 PM on Monday, February 26th, 2024

I had this for years after False R. I do believe it was depression but the anti-depressants also made me feel numb. I don't know exactly what it was that pulled me out of it. Honestly I think leaving my xWS pulled me out of it because being around him was an everyday exposure to what caused my pain in the first place.

fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24

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Copingmybest ( member #78962) posted at 2:07 PM on Tuesday, February 27th, 2024

MCC,
I’m just about 1 month shy of 3 years post DDay. My depression stage came earlier than yours, but my awake time at night and early morning hours were actually filled with small jobs/tasks I wanted to accomplish at home. I could sit there and stew about how it seemed my life was over, but I got sick of feeling that way and I just went out to my shop and accomplished things I wanted to get done. Sometimes they were simple things that I put off due to procrastination, others were larger jobs (I basically rebuilt an old pickup truck from scratch). Each small accomplishment gave me a sense of pride in what I’d done, after enough of these it gave me new motivation to continue doing things. Let’s say that in the span of a year, I got a LOT done. I’d even do things for others in need (without denying myself my own needs though). I wrestled for a long time feeling unlovable and worthless. But my recent sessions with my new IC I now see myself as a catch for any person. I know it’s difficult to get started, but at some point I had to ask myself, do I want to be depressed forever or do I want to be happy. I chose happy and thank goodness I did. Doing things that bring happiness to yourself becomes an addition and when you start doing things for yourself, the worries about the future tend to drift away, at least they did for me. Sometimes we need to feel that sadness in our lives, but at some point we need to say F-it and get ourselves moving.
Hang in there Mint, we’re here for you!

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Topic is Sleeping.
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