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Divorce/Separation :
I’m trying

Topic is Sleeping.

 Buckles (original poster new member #82495) posted at 4:32 AM on Thursday, April 6th, 2023

I can’t count how many times she has told me "I’m leaving you," and "I’m divorcing you." I have the divorce papers, but I can’t seem to let go of that last shred of hope. My intellect, and my emotions do not see eye to eye. I want them to be on the same page. I’m overwhelmed with sadness, loneliness, anger, frustration, and obsessive thoughts. I don’t have a support system, I work alone, and I rarely interact with another human. I see a counselor once a week. I feel like all this is endless. Day after day after day…

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:11 PM on Thursday, April 6th, 2023

You need to be brave and take one giant step to connect with one other person.

Even if it’s a meet up group for an activity — you need to push yourself to go.

Introduce to one person. Just one.

You will be amazed at the benefit of that effort. Even if it amounts to nothing — you overcame a challenge or fear or whatever. Just know you did it!!!

The second time it won’t be as scary.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 7:53 PM on Friday, April 7th, 2023

Make small talk with the cashier at your grocery store. Go for a walk in a local place where others exercise. Got to lunch alone and sit at the bar (you don’t have to drink, but order food and a soft drink or iced tea), and chat with the bartender or other patrons. Bars are easy that way. I did these things on my darkest days. They got me through it.

You need human contact and interaction. Do it. It does indeed get easier every time you do it.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:33 PM on Friday, April 7th, 2023

Agree with the others. Volunteer somewhere, take a class at the local college, join a Meet-Up group, join a softball team…
Any connection will help.

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Topic is Sleeping.
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