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Divorce/Separation :
I’m trying

Topic is Sleeping.

 Buckles (original poster new member #82495) posted at 4:32 AM on Thursday, April 6th, 2023

I can’t count how many times she has told me "I’m leaving you," and "I’m divorcing you." I have the divorce papers, but I can’t seem to let go of that last shred of hope. My intellect, and my emotions do not see eye to eye. I want them to be on the same page. I’m overwhelmed with sadness, loneliness, anger, frustration, and obsessive thoughts. I don’t have a support system, I work alone, and I rarely interact with another human. I see a counselor once a week. I feel like all this is endless. Day after day after day…

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:11 PM on Thursday, April 6th, 2023

You need to be brave and take one giant step to connect with one other person.

Even if it’s a meet up group for an activity — you need to push yourself to go.

Introduce to one person. Just one.

You will be amazed at the benefit of that effort. Even if it amounts to nothing — you overcame a challenge or fear or whatever. Just know you did it!!!

The second time it won’t be as scary.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 7:53 PM on Friday, April 7th, 2023

Make small talk with the cashier at your grocery store. Go for a walk in a local place where others exercise. Got to lunch alone and sit at the bar (you don’t have to drink, but order food and a soft drink or iced tea), and chat with the bartender or other patrons. Bars are easy that way. I did these things on my darkest days. They got me through it.

You need human contact and interaction. Do it. It does indeed get easier every time you do it.

I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:33 PM on Friday, April 7th, 2023

Agree with the others. Volunteer somewhere, take a class at the local college, join a Meet-Up group, join a softball team…
Any connection will help.

Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Topic is Sleeping.
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