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The knocks, the pain, but currently the hook up emails. My WH signed up to a plethora of websites for meetups, sex, whatever. Which was found out over a year ago, it took me some time to work out what email he had used because of course he promptly deleted stuff after being found out and then conveniently "couldn't remember" exactly what it was. I was able to recover the email address and I've been monitoring it for that year.

At first the sheer volume of emails coming in from sites was overwhelming but because it bothered me so much I clicked through to each one, read what he had put on his profile, cried some more about photos etc he had used including ones I had taken and were my favourites, the usernames which were often something that at the time meant something to us, and even the damn passwords because mostly he used one that I had taught him.

Slowly I removed as much trace of his activity as I could, but there's still this odd trickle of emails coming in, that don't point to a site they come from, they are constructed like a more personal email sending you to a site to meet up with them :

XXXX, hi,
Im super fit yoga coach.
Are you into naughty and gorgeous brunettes?
Here, check out my photos: LINK

It really bothers me that there is still possibly profiles I haven't been able to find out there, but I'm at a loss where to look.

Hi RedQueen (great name),

What is your WH doing to help you through this? How about changing his email address at the VERY least.
Why are you policing his email instead of him doing all that work?

This sounds exhausting for you. Please put yourself first.

He has his own personal email which isn’t affected and I can access, this one was started purely for the purpose of signing up to these stupid sex sites and while it would seem easy to just close the email and forget about it I can’t do that, it’s the not knowing and not tying up loose ends that gets to me.

It’s also the only way I’ve found some information out.

He’s not doing anything on this front, I questioned where else he signed up but he says he can’t remember, he’s not the best with technology but it almost feels like he can be better at it than you think - when he wants to be.