Livingingrief (original poster member #79723) posted at 11:46 PM on Wednesday, September 21st, 2022
My H AP was not only my friend but also she is my Hs childhood friends wife. Disgusting, I know. I thought she was a good person until now. I look back and remember how She used to complain about how lazy her H was and how she wished her H was like mine. ( first red flag). She went after him knowing she would destroy 2 families but it was no issue to her since she thought she would get what she selfishly wanted.
It wasn't until after I talked to my H about the A that I realized how sick she really is. Example- Before their A turned to sex talk, she asked my H if he ever cheated on me before to which he said never. That's when the sex talk started. She told him many times that she feels special because she's the one who got him to cheat on him beautiful gf. ( she knows I am better looking and more successful). How sick do you have to be to take pleasure is that? She felt like she had some kind of control over him and she loved it. She thought wrong obviously. I just wish I knew how wrong I was about her character.
Scherzo ( new member #80983) posted at 1:02 AM on Thursday, September 22nd, 2022
In learning about this topic it seems she is no more terrible than thousands of other people whohave affairs, including your WS, including my WS, including the woman who chased my WS, and so on.
For me the hardest thing about this topic is accepting it as the human condition, apparently.
I am sorry you are going through this and I hope you find peace working with your own well being and your relationship
Troutman523 ( member #80426) posted at 2:47 AM on Thursday, September 22nd, 2022
By definition, someone that knowingly steps into another person's marriage is not a good person. You can't be a person of character and do that. It's even more of a betrayal as it was a friend of yours.
I'm slowly losing faith in humanity...
[This message edited by Troutman523 at 2:48 AM, Thursday, September 22nd]
Me BH:57, Her WW:54 DDay: 6/22. She walked right out on DDay and moved in with AP. Filed for divorce.