Why do you reconcile?
I ask this sincerely. My WS technically did not have sex - and declared immediately that he chose me and our marriage over the other person - but there WAS an OP, and I cannot return to my prior innocence.
At the same time, I find myself signing up for our couplehood in coming fall plans, family and friend and holiday events. Is that the main reason people Reconcile? I will do it but I feel dead inside and of course the family and friends don’t know what I am going through.
Am I supposed to count my lucky stars that he wants to stay together? Is that real and valid? I don’t quite believe in it.
From reading here it seems reconciliation is a long struggle and I suspect for us, I am the one who will do the main struggling. He expects things to fall into place as always before. I suspect that is the bottom line for us. Me disillusioned and zero consolation, just get on with it.
15 comments posted: Thursday, September 22nd, 2022
Two questions, after my story
I wd delete this if I could figure out how.
4 comments posted: Monday, September 19th, 2022