Beagle (original poster member #79560) posted at 12:17 AM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
I think this is the fastest divorce in history. Told ww wanted a divorce April 23. Met with mediator. Split everything 50/50. Joint physical custody of the kids. No alimony or child support either way. We sign the agreement Monday which is then enforceable. Will be electronically filed at the court and that’s a wrap. Will probably take about 2 weeks for a judges signature. It’s amazing how quickly a 10 year marriage and 15 plus year total relationship just ends. I have no love for her anymore. Lost it after d day and the trickle truthing. I see her for the narc monster she is now. I don’t even think she is capable of any real love. Now I’ll just live my best life , heal from my wounds , focus on me, and continue to be the honest , moral , kind man that I have always been.
leafields ( member #63517) posted at 1:12 AM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
You're right - that is fast.
Be sure to take the time to process your emotions. None of this is easy.
Be assured, we're Team Beagle!
BW M 34years, Dday 1: 2/18, Dday 2: 8/19, D final 2/25/21
Beagle (original poster member #79560) posted at 1:36 AM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
Thank you. I’m in therapy twice a week working through it. I have moments of sadness and then joy. It makes it easier for me to move on now that the mask has come off of my WW.
fareast ( Guide #61555) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
Good for you. You’ve got the right attitude. Focus on your healing and moving forward toward indifference. Remember no contact equals no new hurts. Sounds like she is making this part easy. Good luck moving forward.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:31 AM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
Congratulations on getting out of infidelity. I hope your healing continues and that you find peace. I had some up and down days, but overall my healing accelerated after the final split. Good luck!
Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 3:57 PM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
In some ways you have been blessed that you don’t have a long drawn out contentious D. Less stress and aggravation for you.
Here’s to a brighter happier future.
You will survive this and one day be healed. All the best.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.
BraveSirRobin ( Guide #69242) posted at 7:24 PM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
I'm glad for you, Beagle.
DailyGratitude ( member #79494) posted at 9:11 PM on Saturday, June 4th, 2022
I’m glad your divorce proceedings went smoothly and you are on your road to healing and recovery. I admire your fortitude and resolve. I hope to get there one day soon too.
Wishing you a new life of happiness and fidelity!
Me: BW mid 50’sHim: WH late 50’sMarrried 25 yearsDday: EA 2002 PA 9/2021Divorce 10/2021 (per wh’s request) WH left to be with AP
morningglory ( member #80236) posted at 8:24 PM on Monday, June 6th, 2022
You're lucky it's been quick and easy and cheap. Good for you.
As for feeling blindsided by how quickly your relationship has dissolved, well, the thing to keep in mind is that your ex had checked out of the relationship a long time ago. That's why BS's suffer so much and WS's usually don't. They broke up, mentally, before we did. So it seems fast to us. But still, it's good to get out of there quickly.
Stay strong and move on to better things.