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Another kind of dream

Topic is Sleeping.

 MIgander (original poster member #71285) posted at 4:57 PM on Friday, May 13th, 2022

Last week has been a very good week for BH and I and last night was one of the better nights. Felt like we were companions and hanging out in our bedroom together as a cozy team. I blew it a bit today with a selfish comment I made... but, that's the ups and downs. Going to make it up to BH and show him a really good time out tonight.

Anyway, I had a really interesting dream last night. I dreamed I went to Russia and was in the desert- a barren lonely place with nothing but rocks and sand surrounding me. Then, I had to drive alll the way to China (yeah, it's a dream all right laugh ). The road was just being paved, under construction, rocky and terrifying. Funny enough, I was in my own car (guess my Acadia is my dream car? laugh ) In China, I was guided around by a Chinese person around some of the most beautiful places and gardens, seeing things my soul had longed to see. I was crying for joy in the dream. All the while, being mildly terrified of being a stranger in some very strange land, where I barely spoke the language and knew no one. I had to rely on my guide to get me where I needed to go so I could get home. Thing is, I never went home and never looked back.

I've been thinking about the dream all morning. It's a pretty good metaphor for my life. Starting out in a dangerous wasteland emotionally with my FOO. Then, a long and perilous road to a place of beauty, life and joy. A land I barely knew, but was joyful to be in. First time I remember crying tears of joy in any of my dreams.

Maybe things are shaping up in my life? I know BH isn't anywhere near satisfied with our M yet. Things are better. The good days are getting longer, the bad days shorter and father between.

Anyway, thought I'd share and maybe give somebody hope today.

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:25 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022


Having seen photos of 'inner Asia' and Hangchou, I think you've got it right.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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DaddyDom ( member #56960) posted at 10:04 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

It's weird, when I dream, nothing from my real life makes it into my dreams. I might dream about being in "my house" or driving "my car" or being with "my family" but it's not my actual house or car or family from real life, but in my dreams, whatever it is, it feels real, as if it has always been there.

Do you often remember your dreams? I almost never do.

Thanks for sharing your dream, it's a lovely one. I've never really believed in dream "interpretation" per se, but I do believe that dreams can sometimes tell us what's going on in our minds. I like your "metaphor" theory, sounds like you needed a get-away, and to see what the work you do today can look like in the future.

Me: WS
BS: ISurvivedSoFar
D-Day Nov '16
Status: Reconciling
"I am floored by the amount of grace and love she has shown me in choosing to stay and fight for our marriage. I took everything from her, and yet she chose to forgive me."

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 MIgander (original poster member #71285) posted at 10:23 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

Yeah, I remember most of my dreams, know when I am dreaming and can control them to a certain extent. I know when I am having a "we need to talk" kind of dream from my subconcious when I try to change the dream and it doesnt budge. Then I know to let go and see whats up.

For me dreams arent about prophecy so much, like those telephone scammers claim to interpret, but more of a letter being mailed in from the subconscious mind. I know when my emotional brain has been chewing on something (usually its when the evil hamster has been more active on the wheel). Then, when its done chewing, the results are given in the form of one of those unchangeable dreams.

Those dreams I do go to analyze in thd form of metaphor. Dreamdictionary website is my go to. Its a good starting point to see what common themes the elements of the dream contained. Then I go through the overall tone and message ajd see where that fits with whats going on in my life.

Im getting pretty good at it.

Of course, I still have those dreams where I am searching for a toilet, cant find one and then wale up having to pee! Pretty prophetic! laugh

WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 2:58 PM on Friday, May 27th, 2022


I remember most of my dreams and am constantly googling interpretations in the morning. I even have a spreadsheet for the odd ones.

I'm glad this was a happy one for you. Both the dream and the interpretation.

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades - Children (1 still at home) Multiple DDays w/same AP until I told OBS 2018 Cease & Desist sent spring 2021"Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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