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Really quick rant...

This is an EXTREMELY minor issue in the light of a global pandemic and everything happening in the world, but it really bites my ass.

I let myself slide since my dad died. But, I have picked up my BeachBody workouts again and damn if I'm not seeing real results. you could bounce a quarter off parts of my body again (unfortunately I'm including my boobs in those areas! ).

Now, I OBVIOUSLY have intimacy issues with my WH, adding an old eating disorder to the mix isn't helpful either. HOWEVER, as a formerly very good-looking woman, I am not impressed with compliments that have qualifiers attached to them.

For example, my husband's go-to comment is "your body doesn't bother me." Now, I find that vaguely insulting and certainly NOT a turn on. Maybe I'm too sensitive.

Or "you look great for a woman who is 54." WTF? I get the "you look great" is probably the sentiment but the qualifier seems to negate the positive.

"You look great for a 54 year old woman who has had two kids, doesn't sleep enough, lives in a harsh climate, lives on coffee, etc..." is NOT a panty dropper!

Or am I wrong?

You are not wrong.

Whats the point of the negative I wonder. I see how it negates the positive for sure.

Why not just give the compliment and leave it at that.

The you look great for a woman who is 54." almost sounds like jealousy. Or an actual insult since I wonder if you'd get the compliment at all if you were 45.

So, I'm not being sensitive. lol

Hope your snow is melting where you are DragnHeart (I read your sick of winter comment). I don't know how far north I am compared to you, but the Great White North is STILL in fine form here. Snow drifts to the shoulders.