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Divorce/Separation :
Posting here to not yell at WH. Trying to be as neutral as possible w him

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 Gottagetthrough (original poster member #27325) posted at 2:05 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

I know we will divorce. I have a retained attorney, etc .

Im in therapy to get over this stuck not filing crap.

We have finances together. Actually he has them money i am a sahm

I took the one debit card today because i needed to withdraw $$$ for an oil change.

I told him i needed it, told him i was taking it.

Had asked him to change the oil last week

I took it and drove my kid to school (30 min away). Then i made a detour to get cash out for the oil cahange

He didnt have gas in his car and freaked out, called from gas station. I told him i was at atm. Freaks more

I get money, drive to him. Text which gas station (there are two across from each other. He said he has already gone back home. WHAT? Thats in the opposite direction of work! STUPID!!! I yell on text why did u do that??? I wait at gas station 15 min. Nasty texts back and forth.

Finally i say where are u! It doesn’t taake 15 min to drive here from home!

Fund out he borrowed $20 from my mom, and was already on his way.

I was waiting 15 min at the gas station with the 2 year old in the car, and the 16 year old at home recovering from ankle surgery.

I have been going hard all week (dog ate a mouse so had to go to vet an hour away, next day kid has surgery 2 hr drive away, then yesterday i "just" drive middle kid to school and take care of 16 yr old and 2 year old.. etc…

Today its an oil change, and normal stuff but F THAT ASSHOLE. He needed to teach me a lesson, i guess?

Yeah. I learned that lesson. Got the message LOUD AND CLEAR

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:51 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

So sorry to read this. Like you don’t have enough on your plate.

Stop being available to bail him out. Next time just say "sorry too busy" and go about your day.

Not mean. Not angry. No emotion. Just setting up some new boundaries.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:03 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

Sending you patience and strength. Hang in there!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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 Gottagetthrough (original poster member #27325) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, February 24th, 2022

He is trying to "nice up" by bringing everyone lunch from a nice takeout place.


Too late, Stretch. I got your number.

I saw an old couple at the car place this afternoon. Walking together. I thought, "UGH! That can NOT be me and WH in 40 years!!! I do NOT want to spend my days with him!!"

I just want to divorce him and fly planes and go to museums and take road trips. Hug my kids, hug my dog, glass of wine, wheel of brie.

Lol. He’s so stupid. I am way better than him. He should have treated me like a queen. I finally realize that Im prettier, smarter, and have a lot more going for me than his dumb ass!!!

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