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Divorce/Separation :
Calm, quiet, the after-divorce reflection and reality

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 katmandude54 (original poster member #35992) posted at 6:27 PM on Saturday, January 22nd, 2022

My divorce was final in May 21. My, has it been a nice, quiet, calm and smooth 8 months.
Oh, there have been issues ... with my kids, the ones living with me still (16, 26), but NOTHING from the ex-WWW.
There is nothing to have contact with. She lives with her AP (Who is married still to another woman, and they all visit, and holiday together. Strange) but we rarely speak, text or have contact. I've physically seen her twice since divorce was final (And that final was via Zoom!), one when she picked up daughter for her 16th birthday and then for her Xmas (The ONLY times since the divorce she saw OUR youngest daughter).
Am I sad? No. Am I depressed? No. Am I happy? Yes.
At 67, two bad marriages (LOTS of cheating in both, a child not of my making in one), my life is dedicated to getting my 16yo thru high school and out on her own. AND, trying to launch my 26yo. THAT is the toughest one of these aspects left.
There has been some revision from the Ex-WWW: "Oh, we had such as good marriage!" B.S. I should have known better. Immature, self-centered, controlling. I was hurting, though, from ending a 10-year marriage that ended when I found one of my kids was not mine and that wife had been banging everything and anything for years. Devastated is understatement.
But, now, work, kids, relax. Only things that matter.

If at first you don't succeed, you're probably screwed.

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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 8:54 PM on Saturday, January 22nd, 2022

Nice update. I hope the peace and happiness continue for you. You deserve it.

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:02 AM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2022

Great update. Sounds like you are thriving— great job!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 6195   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
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lumpygravy ( member #11877) posted at 4:10 PM on Thursday, January 27th, 2022

Man I would love some advice on launching. I have one of those right now (24 and doesn't do ANYTHING) and I am approaching my wits end.

BS: Me WS: Her M: 26 Years
Daughter: 24 DDays: 1996, 8/2006, 5/2016
1st: Online, 2nd: EA/PA, 3rd: She got shot down
Divorced 3/22

posts: 138   ·   registered: Aug. 29th, 2006
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