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Divorce/Separation :
It's Been a Long Almost Two Years!!!!!!

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 heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 2:25 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

How goes everything folks!!!! Has it finally been a year already laugh laugh laugh !!!!


Last time I was here on SI was right when I kicked the WW out of the house to go and live with her AP two states over. I've hardly heard anything from her and was able to file for D on 8/23. Long story short, final D was granted today, 10/11/2021!!!!!!

Right now it's a surreal feeling and I'm pinching myself making sure that this is real. All I can say is good riddance to WW and thank you to the AP for taking her off my hands and out of life. This past year was total, absolute NC and grey rock which allowed myself time to heal and get priorities straight. It's ironic that today is the day that she decided to step out of the marriage and take up with AP two long years ago. It's fitting that today would be the day that the D is finalized. Karma has a wonderful way of working itself out. Metaphorically, I've stepped out of the woods and into the clearing and all I can see is blue sky with the eagles crying on high and the birds singing in the branches. The air smells so sweet and soothing! It's hard to believe that this day is finally here and have been waiting for it with baited breath for well, almost two years.

My new beginning is here!!!!!!!!!!!

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

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fareast ( member #61555) posted at 3:05 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congrats!

It’s nice to have it finalized and you are totally free. Hope your kids are doing well and adjusted to your WW’s betrayal. No contact and grey rock is definitely the way forward. Good luck.

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

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 heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 3:30 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Thanks fareast, it feels absolutely amazing to have this weight lifted off!!! The kids have adjusted well to the betrayal. DD21 will not take her phone calls and wants absolutely NC. DS19 hardly talks to his WW mother and DD17.5 has blocked her phone calls. So yeah, they've adjusted quite well and see xWW for what she really is, a conniving narcissist with self esteem issues.

NC and grey rock is the only way to go!!!!!!

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

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Blandy ( member #79252) posted at 4:03 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congrats, I just read through your story and it looks like you did pretty well overall. Did everything turn out the way you hoped as far as your military retirement and whatnot?

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leafields ( member #63517) posted at 5:52 AM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congratulations! FWIW, my kids don't want to hear from XH because he's such an emotional vampire.

Onward and upward!

Lea
Me: BW
Married 34 years, 3 DS
DDay #1: March 26, 2018, DDay #2 8/26/2019
Filed for D: 11/16/2020
D Final: 2/25/2021

posts: 669   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
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 heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 12:24 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congrats, I just read through your story and it looks like you did pretty well overall. Did everything turn out the way you hoped as far as your military retirement and whatnot?

Blandy, she does not get any of my military retirement or what I had saved up which is a good thing. When the D was filed I went ahead and sued for CS retroactive to her leaving in 8/2020. xWW has since lawyered up in the last week and wants to fight CS. All I can say is bring it on as she will not be let out from her obligations and responsibilities to DD17.

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

posts: 327   ·   registered: Jan. 4th, 2020
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 heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 12:28 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

leafields, Thank You so much!!!!!!!! xW is definitely an energy vampire and we are all better for it now that she is gone.

It's my time now to shine like a supernova!!!!!!!!

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

posts: 327   ·   registered: Jan. 4th, 2020
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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 1:33 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Here’s to blue skies ahead for you and your kids!

They are lucky to have an awesome parent like you!

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congratulations and welcome to your next chapter! Make it glorious.

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 4240   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
id 8692785
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crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:53 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

Congratulations on your new beginning!!!

fBS/fWS(me):48 Mad-hattered after DD1
XWS:51 Serial Cheater, NPD tendencies
Together 25 years, Married 19
DD(18) DS(15)
DD1 (2008) COW, DD2 (2012) MOW, False R (2014) Same MOW. DD3 (2019) Webcam girl

posts: 8067   ·   registered: Apr. 2nd, 2012   ·   location: California
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 heartbrokeninNC (original poster member #72472) posted at 10:32 PM on Tuesday, October 12th, 2021

[bold}Here’s to blue skies ahead for you and your kids!

They are lucky to have an awesome parent like you!

Thank you so very much, @The1stWife!!!!! Everything feels good, the kids are thriving and we are moving on with our lives.

@BearlyBreathing and @crazyblindsided thank y'all so much for the kind words. Also very thankful for all the support from the SI community and thankful that I found this site in the beginning!!! If it wasn't for this community who knows where I'd be at this stage in the game.

M-20 T-21
DDay: 12/24/2019
Separated: 8/22/2020
D: 10/11/2021

Me: 51

"Always fear regret more than failure." - Author Unknown

It's time for another name!

posts: 327   ·   registered: Jan. 4th, 2020
id 8692854
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