Flatlined123 (original poster member #35862) posted at 12:13 AM on Monday, October 11th, 2021
I don’t have anywhere else to post this but here. My twin 24 yr old sons have moderate autism. One is very OCD and the other has a lot of anxiety which causes him to rip things up. The second one is in a group AFC home and the other is going to be moving into a supervised apartment when this school year is finished.
I AM SO TIRED. 😫 We also have two daughters who are 28 & 30. I have parented hard for 30 years. I want a life. It’s not that I don’t live our boys I’m just so tired and emotionally spent because of them. I’m 52 & my husband is 55. When do we get to enjoy life? When do we get to have our time?
I feel so selfish for saying this😭
Me: BS H: WS
4 kids
DD #1 7-11-08
DD#2 8-21-09 same OW, A never ended.
Started R in 12-09
"If what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, I should be able to bench press a Buick."
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 1:36 AM on Monday, October 11th, 2021
I feel this in my soul.
My disabled son does not have autism but many of his characteristics are very similar. I’m fairly certain he will never be able to live on his own. He’s been on a waiting list for 5 years now for services through Disabilities and Special Needs that would allow him to be in a group home or supervised apartment setting.
His younger brother could have graduated with honors. He has the potential but is lazy. He had a disastrous year last year in college (a senior military college) and is sitting out a semester on academic discharge.
And I now am the primary caregiver for both of my parents who are 81 and 82. By the time I’m not taking care of somebody I’ll be in a nursing home myself.
Me, 54
Him, 45 (JMSSC)
Married 24 years. Reconciled.
