Please don’t beat yourself up for sharing this with us, or even for feeling it.
I wonder every day if I will ever have any life left to live, or if I will be able to live it by the time it happens.
All 3 of my adults sons live with us, and I take care of my disabled husband. I don’t even think I would mind so much that everyone is here all the time - in and out making me crazy, if they could show some promise that they can "grow up" and make a life for themselves.
And I know that if something happens to my husband before it happens to me, I will be lost without him… Even though he drives me insane, and I don’t feel close to him.
When I feel badly for saying or even thinking the kinds of things that you’ve said in your post, I just tell myself that as long as I continue to do "what’s right" for others, I have a right to feel these things for myself at some point.
Share with us when you need to.
I often laugh with my Irl friend with whom I share "most" things, that if I wrote a book, no one would read it because they would not believe that what I was writing really happened.
But your friends here, so many of us know that this kind of stuff does happen, and we know how devastating, energy sapping, and crazy making it can be.
We will be your sounding board.
We’ve got your back!
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy