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Teacher is just sort of discovering the ease of Amazon so we have that to talk about! I actually pointed out to her that the main reason I use Prime is for streaming shows and having a little more control over music on the Echo she gave me for Christmas.

We went out with one of her classmates over the weekend heading to a nearby suburb for a music event. We had a great time, but let me tell you, get a couple of drinks in classmates and their conversation got sorta raunchy on the drive home. I just grinned and chuckled and sometimes blushed a little. Good thing it was dark!

My parents are moving from their current home to a much smaller one so I was given a couple of big boxes of photos from my childhood and family as well as tons of pictures of my sons as they were the first and last grandkids so all three have tons of pictures. I pulled out my senior portraits and took some snaps and sent them to her and wowed her with my long curly locks from 40 years ago as well as some baby pictures. I teased her that I would send her a nude and found one of me in the bathtub at about age 3 with my bare buns sticking out of the water. It sure was fun to look back at those pictures and she said when she first looked at my senior picture she thought it was my oldest son.

School is going well. We can't really get together during the week but have tickets for a comedy show at the state fair this weekend and are already planning our sleepovers for the weekend as well. She's started to admit to her family and friends that we are indeed "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" and we laugh at those titles since we're not really a girl and boy anymore but it's fun.

Traffic is horrible on my side of town right now with my route going right by the state fairgrounds. Yesterday I decided I just couldn't deal with it and cut through some neighborhoods on my way home. I ended up driving right by Teacher's new school.

Lo and behold, just as I was coming around the corner I spied an attractive lady in a dress carrying a school bag. As I got closer I knew it was Teacher! So I pulled up in front of her and jumped out and we were able to have a few hugs and minutes together before we both headed to our houses. It was really nice to see her, even if it was just for a few minutes.

Schoolwise, I'm settling into a groove of figuring out middle schoolers. I tell my 6th graders that this is my first year in middle school, just like theirs, so we are all learning a lot. I'm learning to slow down and be much more patient and they are learning how to remember to bring the right tools to class and to follow directions and turn in work on time. I believe most of us will succeed.

We talked tonight and both agreed it would be more enjoyable to be together and working on school stuff side by side (yeah right, if we were together we'd both be ready, willing and able to be intimate and then wouldn't work on school stuff for even a moment) but realize that we need our rest and whatnot. But, I expect we'll have an extended sleepover for the long Labor Day weekend.

I referred to Teacher as my girlfriend at lunch today with my colleagues as we all talked about our plans for the Labor Day holiday. I got the "Ooh, Mr. Dirt has a girlfriend!" teasing from them and we all laughed and enjoyed lunch.

At least you shouldn't have to listen to the

Dirt and Teacher sitting in a tree,
K-I-S-S-I-N-G

LOL.

Glad school is going well do far. Enjoy your long weekend.

We decided to go for a hike today. Well, actually, we decided yesterday to go for a hike today. So we did. I met Teacher at the city park and we awaited our other hiking friend and then drove about an hour and half to the mountains and trailhead. Our hiking friend brought her old one eyed dog so they went pretty slowly and turned around about half a mile into the hike. Teacher and I went on up the pretty steep trail for about 3 miles and found a really neat set of waterfalls and clambered down to get a closer look. It was really neat.

After we returned (6 miles round trip and about 1500 feet of elevation gain) we drove to the nearby town and had a late lunch (2nd cheeseburger in 2 days in memory of Jimmy Buffett). While driving Teacher needed to charge her phone so I unplugged mine and she plugged hers in then mused that perhaps she ought to just leave a charging cable in my pickup. I grinned and said, "That seems like a pretty big commitment!" We laughed.

After we returned to our city and I stopped to drop her off at her car we (or at least I) got a little amused at how long it took her to pack up all the stuff she had scattered throughout the cab of my pickup. She found some stuff from our Yellowstone trip in July on her side of the cab and asked if it was hers. Sure as hell wasn't mine! Laughed some more.

Fun times for sure!

Another fun and neat update. Today (Labor Day in the USA) I went to her house and picked her and her kayak up and we headed to our reservoir for a bit of paddling and fun with more friends. We had a nice time and didn't get sunburned and had our 2nd of twice a year hot dogs (I turned out to be the cook on a borrowed grill).

Later she texted and asked if she could bring over a gift for my son belatedly for his birthday. She arrived in stunning fashion as I finished a bit of cleanup and then we spent almost two hours visiting and laughing with my son. She's pretty crazy about him and brought him a homemade peach and blueberry crisp! He's just at the age that her youngest son was when he died 8 years ago, so she is pretty latched onto him.

We've talked a bit over the last few weeks about how important it is to find joy in whatever we are doing and how we've had such a joyful summer this year. She told me, yesterday while hiking, how happy it made her to see me having such a good time and reminded her of how happy I've been on our adventures seeing how happy and joyful she's been. That time she said, "Oh Dirt, look at the flowers!" when we were adventuring up near Crested Butte was such a joy to me and today watching her paddle and laugh while we enjoyed the lake water was just awesome.

We're in such a good place right now. Finding joy in everyday is so important!

I have been away for quite awhile but wanted to check back in and see how your posts were going. You have the only kind of relationship I would give up being single for. (maybe) I love how it builds slowly over time and you both keep your own space. Both attracted to each other and compatible on what you enjoy for leisure.

I am happy everything is going well for you!

We had a wonderful weekend and actually a great week last week. We both worked a bit on Friday and then decided to go out Friday night to a local dive bar for some music. I arrived to pick her up and had my sleepover bag with me, but this time with a silly twist. She had told me about reading an interview or book by Jerry Hall, Mick Jagger's longtime companion and mother of 4 children. Jerry said something about the best way to involve yourself in someone else's life was to start leaving things at their home. So, I brought a new toothbrush over and left it in her medicine cabinet.

Anyway, the dive bar was interesting and the music was good and the sleepover was fantastic of course! Saturday we had things to do but also had plans to take Nurse and her sister to dinner and music in a neighboring town. We had a great time with prime rib and top notch musicians. After we dropped Nurse and sister off at Nurse's house we drove over to Teacher's. She said, "I noticed you left your new toothbrush and your dopp kit at my house as well as the rest of your sleepover stuff. Does this mean you are staying again?" I said, "Well, I want to but I need to warn you that I'm really tired and sleep would be really good." So we slept! It was great. Don't worry, we had a delightful wake up before breakfast!

Reality encroaches on a Sunday, so back to lesson planning and holding wonderful memories of our time together. We agreed that since we really can't/don't have much time for each other during the work week that being together on the weekends is wonderful.

I left my new toothbrush there!

I really look forward to your posts, CD. I'm so happy for you and Teacher. It sounds like you're involving yourself in a good way.

You have the only kind of relationship I would give up being single for. (maybe) I love how it builds slowly over time and you both keep your own space. Both attracted to each other and compatible on what you enjoy for leisure.

Exactly this.

I love reading your updates, CD. I admit, I’ve been spending time with a man just as friends for a couple of months. There is potential there, but this is the slowest roll I’ve ever experienced. Not even a kiss yet! I keep thinking of you and teacher, and reminding myself there is no rush to figure anything out. I am living in the moment, one day at a time. Life is very good. If things don’t pan out, that’s fine. If they do, that’s fine too.

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There is potential there, but this is the slowest roll I’ve ever experienced. Not even a kiss yet! I keep thinking of you and teacher, and reminding myself there is no rush to figure anything out. I am living in the moment, one day at a time. Life is very good. If things don’t pan out, that’s fine. If they do, that’s fine too. smile

WTB - I'm thinking back to how things began with Teacher and I. We had a walk once then followed that with a drink and visit - maintaining a safe distance between us. Then we had a hike on some trails and found ourselves walking a little closer together as well as riding together in my pickup. Then an early morning lunar eclipse hike and our arms brushed against each other occasionally. We met for a few bike rides and talked a bit more. Then a kayak day and more time together in a vehicle and when I dropped her and her kayak off, I meant to give her a little peck on the cheek, but she turned her face and captured a smack on the lips!

Over the next couple of months we only made out like teenagers, in the car. Even after we finally decided to be intimate, it took us several more months to acknowledge that we are dating. Now, after 2 years, we are referring to each other as "girlfriend" and "boyfriend".

I have 2 students in my classes that were her students in elementary school. This week one of them asked if I knew Ms. Teacher. I said I did. He said, "my mom thinks you're her boyfriend because she saw you on Teacher's facebook page!" We laughed about that.

In a totally unrelated update, we had another sleepover this weekend. It was really nice. We made food together and then, well, after the news was over...well, you people understand. And after a somewhat restful night's sleep, what with getting cold and having her find the comforter and then me getting up to let little Molly out and feeding her, well, we had had hard time getting back to sleep. So, appropriately, we greeted each other intimately and got up to make breakfast.

We both had plenty of things on our lists to try and get accomplished so I packed my gear (but not the toothbrush!) and headed home. Much later in the day I sent a text explaining that I was pretty tired and thought I would just stay home. She responded with a "Thank God" response. Its sort of difficult to be a horn dog at this age, but, at least we agree! Hell, we both need time to recover!

She did say that little Molly cried when I left, so I've got that going for me. I must be part of her pack!

Have a great time all. You never know what can happen in your New Beginning!

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Teacher had a friend and former roommate and schoolmate visit this weekend for our pretty big foodfest. So, that pretty much squashed our customary sleepover weekends. But, we still had a great time.

We went out and danced at the festival and enjoyed each other. We also went to a nearby winery's harvest fest and both of them saw quite a few class and schoolmates. I'm starting to be recognized and knew a few of their names. We laughed when the daughter of one of Teacher's classmates asked if I was her "date". I admitted that I had never been called that.

Hell, we're feeling old and tried to call off the big foodfest on Saturday after the harvestfest, but we did it anyway. It's crazy to think that we were calling off at 11 pm, regardless of how good the music was. Must be getting old!

Weren't able to connect today except for text. She had to wish off her visitor and then do lesson plans. I was engaged in frisbee golf for our local community's YMCA Corporate Cup (don't think our school district will win but we had a great time!). I proposed a midweek "dinner date" with sandwiches or something because hell, I'm needing more time with her.

I think this is the first time we've kissed in front of any of her people. I think that's pretty big.

I so enjoy your updates. It's getting to be good soup & sandwich weather. Even cheese & crackers would be ok because you'd be concentrating on being together anyway.

What did your foodfest include?