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The post about the passing of MissesJai has me thinking...

I think of this sometimes. Especially when someone doesn’t post for a while. Are they OK? It’s something really hard happening in their life, or are they sick or have they perhaps passed?

I love y’all dearly, and you have been so kind to me - I actually feel very close to some of you.

But due to the anonymity here, how do we ever find out when we have lost an SI friend?

Noone knows about me being on this site except my H, and he would never think to notify y’all if something happened to me.

I could leave information with someone, but that would mean

they would have access to my posts...and no one knows about my H’s “choices”. And that’s the way I want it to stay.

I sometimes see a “shout out” to check on someone...but if no one on the site knows- it is just a mystery.

It’s really sad, because there are a few individuals I have really missed lately, but there is just no way to know if they are OK.

[This message edited by WhatsRight at 8:09 AM, July 24th (Saturday)]

But due to the anonymity here, how do we ever find out when we have lost an SI friend?

Some people have connected outside of the site and remain in contact that way. Aside from that, there is no way to know. Unless someone comes on to share the information with us through their account.

I hear ya, WhatsRight. Earlier this year an old SIer, Zugwang, had been offline for several months and I was really worried about him (esp with Covid). Eventually he checked in and gave an update, which was a big relief.

Not sure there's a way to change that, but I sure do empathize with your feelings.