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 godheals (original poster member #56786) posted at 3:39 PM on Wednesday, July 21st, 2021

I think more changes are coming. Sorry I just need to vent.

I posted a while ago about dumping toxic people who live across the street from us.

Our other neighbor guy is actually engaged with their co worker. My H was venting to this guy’s stepson about how he was going to watch what he says in front of them since she works with the two cheaters across the street.

I get a phone call last week from the neighbor guy. He told me he was going to sit my H down and I have a talk with him. How he didn’t like the fact my H don’t trust them. Told me what the step son had said. Another thing was they were both sick of my H bitching about the two from across the street. Saying stuff like we all have gotten fucked over before. Get over it

My favorite was when he said “you guys don’t hear them bitching about it”. What the hell?? Of course not because they didn’t get fucked over. This guy knows about my infidelity and we know about his first wife cheating on him. So he knows the pain from when a spouses cheats. So it’s really surprised me this guy is telling me my H needs to get over it. I know it’s way different get betrayed by a spouse then a friend but he should know pain is pain and you don’t tell people to get over it.

I told him his feelings are valid and he has every right to hurt. He really thought this guy was his friend and trusted him 100 percent. He seem to agree but he just didn’t want to listen to it anymore. The same guy who lost his wife last year and was having a hard time with his step daughter. We both when months and months listening to this guy and was there for him when he was having a hell of a time with the step daughter. A few weeks into my H venting about a friend who stabbed him in the back and he don’t want to listen to it anymore.

I pointed out to this guy bottom line with the two across the street is neither one of them have dealt with Reality of their choice to cheat. She didn’t get her way with me last summer calling me out that I had bend over and they could see down my shirt. Giving me a speech about bullshit crap. This is why my H is no longer his friend. Sorry I didn’t give into her bossy it’s my way or the highway bullshit I can’t cope with our choices in life and have to blame everyone around us fucking attitude. The guy agrees with me but we still need to get over it and tip toe around the two across the street because he don’t want to upset them.

Of course I told my H this and the guy never did sit my H down and have the talk. Which is fine. But are both very upset because we were there for this guy last year. But he can’t do the same thing for us. And now my H feels like his been back stabbed by the step son and feels like this guy is actually not a friend.

People suck. Sorry this was long. But bottom line everyone is telling us to get over it because everyone’s been fucked over and no one wants to upset the two cheaters across the street who has never dealt with their choice to cheat. We are the bad guys in the area who just needs to get over it. And again we don’t hear them bitching. Yep we don’t. But then again they didn’t get screwed over.

H: BS
ME: WW
Dday December 2015 (PA for 15 months)
Confessed to H about the A
4 kids together-M 14 Years now.
Happily R.

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prissy4lyfe ( member #46938) posted at 4:41 PM on Wednesday, July 21st, 2021

If your husband was venting to the guys stepson...then he was wrong.

What kind of position do you think that put the stepson in?

Your husband should not have said that to his son and found another person to vent to.

His feelings were valid...his choice to talk about his feelings...valid

His choice of who to speak to.... NOT VALID.

[This message edited by prissy4lyfe at 10:42 AM, July 21st (Wednesday)]

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 godheals (original poster member #56786) posted at 6:32 PM on Wednesday, July 21st, 2021

I forgot to add that my H said the only reason why he was venting to the step son because the feeling was mutual. The step son vents to my H all the time about his step dad. So he felt comfortable about venting about his feeling also because he was doing the something. Otherwise I don’t think he would ever done it. So that is why he shocked he told the step dad what he said because he was venting also.

Edit to add: when I said my H’s feelings are valid I might by the feelings towards the other two people. He has every right to be upset. He really thought he was his friend and one day it was like he was nothing. But the other neighbor guy was like he just need to get over it. Like he was getting mad at about it.

[This message edited by godheals at 1:08 PM, July 21st (Wednesday)]

H: BS
ME: WW
Dday December 2015 (PA for 15 months)
Confessed to H about the A
4 kids together-M 14 Years now.
Happily R.

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