Hi All:
Not sure if this should be in the General or Recon section. But since we are in R, I am posting here.
My FWH (which I hope means former wayward husband as opposed to future WH) passed his polygraph.
Because I can't find a proper search box on SI, I will outline our polygraph experience for anyone else who wonders about it. I really wanted to find more info on here but couldn't find any (I may not have been searching properly).
In my case, I was looking to confirm or negate the timeline of the A and same for if there were any other affairs during our marriage.
As I have said to my H many times, "The only time I ever suspected you were having an affair was when you were having an affair." But largely, I really was in the dark at the time and so, I wonder what else I have been in the dark about. I am about 9 months into my DDay.
The polygrapher gave me 2 questions/areas to focus on. That may be hard for someone and it was for me. I kind of wanted to ask 10 or more questions. But I settled on:
-While living at home, did you see the AP more times than your timeline discloses?
-Had there been other affairs during our marriage?
For the record, I am not looking for input on my questions, or the technique of our polygrapher. I am pleased with the experience and the results. I hope to help someone else looking into the polygraph experience.
I did not tell my H what questions I had submitted, nor did the polygrapher confirm with me exactly how he would phrase the questions (though they were written out in the final report). I set up the appointment and so, was the client and would receive the final report.
My H went up to the offices alone and the report was emailed to me about 5 hours later.
It goes without saying this isn't "Phew! That's over." But I will say that I am happy to know that he was not deceptive in his answers.
Very early on, when my H got his phone records that I had asked for, I pored over them for weeks and then, I was done. I feel that now, the damage of the A and the massive gaslighting and deception is still there, I know that his timeline was honest to me. And that the A was the A.
I hope this helps someone.