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Notagain1 (original poster new member #78464) posted at 2:50 PM on Sunday, March 14th, 2021
Had an ok day yesterday until I got messages from OPs SO asking if WS and OP were seeing each other. I didn't answer, (maybe I should of). Rage set in. Since WS is still in the house in his own space, I went off on him about how this is bad enough and I don't need this person harassing me, so tell OP to tell him herself. Then I sobbed for some time, calmed down and told WS I needed him to stay somewhere else. His response? "I thought we were taking care of each other?" WTF????
ME: "do you mean financially?"
HIM:"Well ya and to cook for each other"
ME: "You have been gone a lot (with his job) I can cook for myself."
Take care of each other???? I am just stunned at his thought process!
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:31 PM on Sunday, March 14th, 2021
I hate days like that. Keep moving forward. It does get better, ven if you can't see that right now. I bring up the word peace a lot on this site, as it's almost a mantra for me. You will find it eventually and it will feel like wrapping yourself up in your favourite sweater (or jumper for the Brits). It just feels right.
I know you are angry, but one BS to another, you should tell the OBS anything they should know. Give them the agency they need to live authentically...
Chin up. You are strong enough to do this.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
Notagain1 (original poster new member #78464) posted at 6:02 PM on Sunday, March 14th, 2021
I did it, I told OBS what I know. I also carried out my request for WS to find somewhere else to go at least for the week. He wants a separation and He wants OP yet he is dragging his feet!
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 4:04 PM on Monday, March 15th, 2021
I am sorry. My wh also still expects me to take care of him even after all hes done!
I constantly tell myself that he has let these people into my life- i cant let them take it over. Ow and all of that mess is a parasite on you. Figure out what you want (him out, in house separation whatever) and ignore the background noise
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