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RocketRaccoon ( member #54620) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, November 25th, 2020
Max,
Why on earth are you still in contact with your ex? Why do you need to still know what it going on with her?
Do you like to torture yourself? If you do, then carry on, and continue what you are doing, and you will never get out of your rut.
Excommunicate your ex from your life. Life is as complicated, or as simple as you make it. Excising toxic elements from it will let you live a happier life.
Newlifeisgreat ( member #71308) posted at 4:30 AM on Wednesday, November 25th, 2020
Cut ALL ties with her and move on!!!
Betrayed Spouse. She cheated and I filed immediately upon discovering. She never even suspected that I knew until the moment she was served with reason being Adultery. Divorced: Sept, 2018. VERY happy with new life, 0 regrets
Westway ( member #71747) posted at 10:23 PM on Wednesday, November 25th, 2020
Problem is I think he's as loose as she is. It's hard to see the wool when you're the sheep.
Me: 52;
XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater
Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.
Maxinulm (original poster new member #75893) posted at 9:47 AM on Thursday, November 26th, 2020
...what does this mean, exactly? You're making sure the other girl is only for lonely nights? Does she know you're not serious? Don't make the same mistake your ex did.
Had sex with her one time. Want to make sure that this wasnt a one time thing and that its more of a FWB. Whats wrong about meeting a nice lady from time to time, have a warm bath with her on cold night, cook something, have sex, watch movies..? Especially while on lookdown.
I was never a guy that faked a relationship or said "I love you", just to get a woman. And I also never will do that. If i like meeting a woman outside of a relationship (while single!) i always communicate honestly. --> so nothing insidious here. While not beeing in a relationship I might be "loose", but whats bad about it if you are honest?!
what i meant that i normally dont do is getting a side chick before "ending contact" with another woman. Thats what i want to do in my situation for the first time....
And you all are right. More of my ex will definitely fuck me up. Still tend to think too much about things I know she did and things I am sure (or have the gut feeling) she did on top of that...
[This message edited by Maxinulm at 3:53 AM, November 26th (Thursday)]
siracha ( member #75132) posted at 1:23 AM on Friday, November 27th, 2020
Im sorry you are feeling bad . It always hurts when a relationship ends . I wish you better luck and better strategy in your future relationships . Before you invest in another person - make sure they have relationship skills / emotional maturity . Dont prioritize any other attribute above that . There is nothing anyone can do to make things work out with someone who is still a child .
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