foreverlabeled, best party ever/ best sex ever
a horrible consequence after does not change the
best party/ best sex every from being the best for it does not
lessen those feelings.
the consequences make the cost of attending that party, having
that sex does not make less good it just makes cost of doing
those things not worth the price paid, the consequences to be
guilt keeps the guilty party from recalling those high feelings.
the shame prevents them from fondly recalling how good the
sex was now. Their regret now does not reduce how good they
felt when they were having their affair sex.
darknessfalls, admits to sex with her AP was better.
username123, to you that DF divorced her BH, then remarried
her BH, recovery has stalled and she is in a bad marriage?
i think that if she had truly recovered she would be saying the
sex with her OM was different, or sex was fun because sex
is enjoyable to her BH. Because she would not want to be
crushing her BH. Impossible to recover a marriage when the
WW continues to crush her BH after D day.
username123, your WW had affair sex. BH at first place the
wrong emphasis on that was sex better. What matters is that
she had a PA, she has gone NC with the OM. WW cannot
undo having sex with the OM. a BH if he wants to recover he
has to accept this.
not accept it as it is ok but accept it as it cannot be undone.
if a BH wants to stay married his accepting that his WW had
a PA is a consequence the BH has to accept.
When a BH has a WW that goes NC, willing to talk about
her PA, wants to be a full time dad, does not want the kids
raised in a broken home a stepdad taking his place, forced
sale of his house, diminished standard of living, still feels
his marriage can recover if his WW is willing to do the work,
then he needs to let go of how good the sex was with the OM.
Celebrate that his WW came back and s doing all she can to
recover the marriage.