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LilBlackCat (original poster member #57470) posted at 6:16 PM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2019
I haven't posted in a long while, I guess.. as nothing has changed.. While generally things are good.. Kids are good, work is hectic as always..
I am still single.
I try to go out and strike up convos at stores and other places.. Either all women I run into are already married (no ring tho) or there's no sign of any interest at all.
Can't help but feel down.
I have done my best to try and not look over the fence, but got an unwanted glimpse the other day when I was helping my daughter take her stuff into her mom's mouse.. A bouquet of flowers from a "friend" and later my younger daughter told me that there's different friends that her mom has..
As it started, and continues.. Her life is grand with no lack of companionship and romance..
Yet, my life still sucks in that arena.
I really miss having someone in my life.. kids and pets are fun.. but it's not the same.
Sorry, just have nowhere else to vent this out to.
Me: BS 43 (Now 50)
Her: WW 37
18 M, 19 Together
4 Children, youngest is now 9.
Divorce Final as of 9/3/19.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:28 PM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2019
Vent away, LBC. New year, new opportunities around the corner. Try to stay optimistic (I know, sometimes easier said than done)!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
LilBlackCat (original poster member #57470) posted at 6:35 PM on Tuesday, December 31st, 2019
Vent away, LBC
Thanks..
I am really hoping for a better year..
Me: BS 43 (Now 50)
Her: WW 37
18 M, 19 Together
4 Children, youngest is now 9.
Divorce Final as of 9/3/19.
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 3:02 AM on Wednesday, January 1st, 2020
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Healershaman ( new member #71482) posted at 4:16 AM on Wednesday, January 1st, 2020
LBC,
Vent away.
Looking over the fence is normal.
Being pensive and letting the mind wander into subjunctive is normal too.
My children live with me when not at college now. former spouse is 400 miles away. My closing FB and other social media accounts helped with NC. One of my children is still in contact, but house rules here prohibit use of speaker phone and video chats so the former spouse does spy nor intrude here.
It's new years eve and I'm here on SI instead of out celebrating. Glad I dropped in. Hope you feel better soon.
HS
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 6:07 PM on Wednesday, January 1st, 2020
LBC,
Her life is grand with no lack of companionship and romance...
Color me skeptical but are emotionally stunted people truly capable of real HEA? 
I would argue they’re really good at faking it; so good at it, they make the rest of us question our emotionally healthy choices 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
hopefullife ( member #71881) posted at 5:16 AM on Friday, January 3rd, 2020
Her life is grand with no lack of companionship and romance..
This is what gets me sometimes. How can he easily find someone to take care and love while I suffer being left behind and alone? I know healing should come first before dating, but will I ever truly heal enough to be someone again?
Color me skeptical but are emotionally stunted people truly capable of real HEA? I would argue they’re really good at faking it; so good at it, they make the rest of us question our emotionally healthy choices
Maybe they are great at faking it, they faked it with us for a long time. We'll never truly know.
10 yrs together. 2 yrs married. No kids.
2 Ddays. H living with OW and their child.
Focusing on self.
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