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Sally update!

SallyShrink81 posted 10/8/2019 08:47 AM

Hi everyone! It's been a while since I've posted or updated so I thought I'd give a shout out.

I've been doing fabulous!! The summer has been busy with a lot of big changes. FamilyGuy (my SO) and I moved in together to a new house about 30 minutes from my old place (Marital home ). Blending and moving has been rocky but we are weathering that storm very well. The new place has a beach association which we joined and everyone has been great so far! Haven't met a lot of families with kiddos yet but life has been very busy. I'm sure next summer being able to hang out at the beach will help tremendously.

I started my doctorate program at the end of August and I am LOVING IT!! I'm still seeing my IC just once a month though to touch base. FamilyGuy and I are attending couples therapy once a month as well to learn skills to keep our relationship strong.

XH continues to be the clueless idiot he is. I've taken a majority of custody of the kids for their well-being. XH "helps out" when he can but honestly it's the best thing for my kiddos so I don't mind... too much. FamilyGuy has been helping more as he and the kids are feeling comfortable with it. I basically feel like I don't even think about the infidelity or my XH because I've been focusing so much on my NB and enjoying my life.

Chili posted 10/8/2019 10:15 AM

Hey Sally girl!

So glad you posted an update - good to *see* you.

Sounds like much has been going on - so many great pieces to your new beginnings! I get the rockiness of blending and moving - heading into it with open eyes and an IC to help navigate is just so wise. I'm not sure it was ever going to be one of those things that could be defined as *perfect* or *without challenges.* (SO and I started seeing my longtime IC early on and still go in for maintenance as life just seems to require it from time to time).

Kudos on the doctorate program. I just love seeing folks here in their new beginnings embracing education - new careers - reinventing themselves. It's like on the other side they were finally able to get away from a toxic situation that never did allow them to be who they should have been all along. Keep us posted!

Not surprised that your Ex is still a clueless idiot. I am kind of encouraged that he has faded into the background and can't stink up things too too much.

Thanks for posting - continue to be good to yourself!

WhoTheBleep posted 10/8/2019 12:11 PM

. It's like on the other side they were finally able to get away from a toxic situation that never did allow them to be who they should have been all along.

^^^YESSSS, Chili!!!

Phoenix1 posted 10/8/2019 13:32 PM

Great update, Sally! I'm glad your NB is still chugging along in a positive direction. Isn't it great when the infidelity nightmare is just an occasional passing thought?

Thanks for sharing!

BrokenheartedUK posted 10/9/2019 16:32 PM

This is an awesome but not unexpected update!! So thrilled for you! Glad the doctorate has all worked out!!!!!

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