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have you started looking for an attorney yet ?

You seem to be a low candidate for an RO being thrown at you falsely because she needs to have you help with the kid.

You gave her a second chance. She seems like a serial cheater.

Run Ferris

PZ. You should just kick her out.. get with your lawyer and explain and get rid of that liar.. she’s no good and she just needs to deal with the consequences. You might need to get the police involved to escort her cheap ass out of your life.

So sorry ... I was going to tell you that something didn’t feel right and then you dropped the bomb. She doesn’t deserve you or your kindness.

Say bye and make sure the door kicks her in the ass

As my therapist said, my main focus is on getting a job and getting physically out of here.

My main concern is getting out of this place as soon as I can. And yes, detaching is happening fast.

I am worried about how the divorce will impact my kid, but that concern is quickly being replaced by “what would happen to my kid, if he were to be raised by this person.”

And she’s getting very good at covering her tracks: deleted all the info on her period tracking app, which I had luckily photographed earlier.

I am waiting for NoMercy to show up and tell me some horrible truth that I need to hear.

Well, I am not NoMercy, but I am not sure what could possibly be a worse truth than what you already told us.

Your wife is not OK. Once you change the status quo, you need to be prepared for an enormous backlash.

Protect yourself!

My therapist saw this coming. He has been coaching me towards getting a financial stability and independence.

Funny thing is, the gaslighting started already. She’s been all about R and to read a book about rekindling M, and I so desperately want to save this M that, at first, I agreed.

And then I found the scant evidence for the second A. I want to know who the AP2 is.

And I have the lawyer that I contacted early on, and the appointment is next week.

Why does it matter who the 2nd AP is?

Or the guy she flirts with at work?

You're on a crazy cycle of tracking, discovering sh*t and confronting, then repeating the same thing again and again. Yes you may discover more stuff, but the point is whether it's the first AP, second or third, your wife has no interest in R and will repeat her interactions time and again.

Do you need further evidence she is disrespectful to you and the marriage or do you already know?

One more thing: while getting out of there, you could make sure you tell her that ANY pregnancy will be met with a DNA test. She seems like she would get knocked up and pin it on you so protect yourself. Also, I wouldn’t sleep with her just as an added measure of protection.

This is shameful.

My methods to verify and track where WW was were all wrong. I am simply not trusting her at all.

She's doing the work, and I am not connecting with her at all. I don't trust her. So, when the mileage tracker came out wrong, I jumped to conclusions.

Upon further research, I found out that I made mistakes. She's, as far as I know, behaving. And no, it is not from what she says, it is from what I found out using other methods.

So, I am not trusting her. Sorry for putting you all up in a tizzy, and I guess I am still hyper-vigilant and hyper-reactive.

The lack of trust is not your fault!

You trusted her and she abused that trust, in the worst way possible. Don't feel bad for not trusting her. You have a right to be hypervigilant and suspicious. I would keep up with GPS, VAR ect until she earns that trust back. It is most definitely not on you, but her to earn that trust.

Glad to hear it wasn't what you thought but I wouldn't blindly try to trust her. Make her earn it. Keep up with the counseling and wishing you a good outcome.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 10:26 AM, April 4th (Wednesday)]

You can't trust her. Imagine that!

These feelings are totally understandable. It is also something you will carry with you for a long time. Whether in reconciliation or divorce. Whether with your STBX or someone else. It just simply is what it is...a consequence of the betrayal.