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Just thought I'd post an update since this week marks one year since D day. Here's where I am now. I have a settlement (not signed) in which I got everything I requested. STBX moves out next month. I am ready to start my life.

So one year ago this week I peeked at STBX laptop, having a hunch, and found devastating emails and texts between him and OW. From there, it was a challenging and transformative journey.

In a nutshell:

STBX and OW are still together living their fantasy life but she was diagnosed with a chronic disease that requires an organ transplant. And, truly, she looks like a hot mess.

I lost 30 pounds.

I have been in therapy for over a year and dealing with my grief

I get the house until DD is 18.

OW is banned from having any contact with DD (there's a history).

STBX still refuses to acknowledge that he is having an affair even though photos of him an OW are all over Facebook. Our friends want nothing to do with him.

He is up to his ears in debt. He gets alimony until I move out of the house.

I feel better physically, spiritually and mentally. I am NOT healed but I see how miserable I was in the marriage before the affair. I am carving out my own identity. It's not perfect but it's progress.

I hope what I have written brings hope to people who think they will never get over this betrayal. You don't get over it. It just changes you and the person you become is kind of cool.

You indeed sound cool! You are handling this like a champ — and I am so happy that you are finding yourself emotionally strong, too.

Thanks for the update!

In 8 weeks will be a year from dday for me too. Makes one reflective. Glad you’re doing well and that you got all that you asked for.

I love reading the positive post where people survived and are doing well after this horrible situation wayward put us through. I’m still in the same home but plan on giving that soon new year new beginning. My wh is borderline and so it depends on the day and how he feels how things will shake out. He’s still with ow as much as I know. He says he wants our sons to have a room in her home. Precious. I will have that battle

And on Friday I was sent to the er because of chest pains. I can’t sleep heart is fine but I decided I cannot die and let him raise our son with no morals.

I cried like a baby thinking what would happen to my child if I passed away and that just makes me stronger

Thank you! I want to see that it will be ok at the end of the day!

"I hope what I have written brings hope to people who think they will never get over this betrayal. You don't get over it. It just changes you and the person you become is kind of cool. "

Thank you. I heard you.

"I hope what I have written brings hope to people who think they will never get over this betrayal. You don't get over it. It just changes you and the person you become is kind of cool. "

Thank you. I heard you.

"I hope what I have written brings hope to people who think they will never get over this betrayal. You don't get over it. It just changes you and the person you become is kind of cool. "

Thank you. I heard you.