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dude,

My question is what is your gameplan ??

I appreciate the support you get here but you need to figure out what you want and have a gameplan to get to that point.

Your thread is getting long and historic but what is your final line ???

He's waiting on bankruptcy then divorce. It has to happen that way in order to save his primary residence.

he fortunately has an excuse to prolong exposure and 180. Must admit though, it sounds like the piece of shit boyfriend is a well-deserved exposure recipient! Karma is a bitch

Don't worry, Western. GW has a good strategy. He has set things in motion and it is just a matter of letting it all progress. He's on the track to moving out of infidelity and it is picking up momentum. He just needs to vent here and there and I'm sure it helps with his 180 in doing so.

GW, don't beat yourself up over the "what ifs". They didn't teach us all how to deal with infidelity back in school after puberty and sex education but you are certainly getting one hell of a life experience crash course and you are doing a damn good job at it. You are going through the natural phases of grief over the death of your M and "anger" is certainly one of them. Let those feeling flow through you and accept them. Continue to channel it be your motivator in moving forward. The fastest way out of the shit storm is to go headstrong through it.

As of now you are teaching your kids about self respect and how to deal with anyone who treats them with less respect than they deserve. Also, they are going to remind their mother in the future how she has been so cruel to you as they have been witness to her wayward behavior. "Yeah mom, you don't remember that pic of you and your AP you put on your phone as the background picture? Or how you kept buying him presents and rubbed it in dad's face? You were a real asshole!" Which is why doing the 180 also makes you out to be the rock for your kids as well. They are going to analyze how you both dealt with the shit storm and they are going to remember that dad wasn't the one who changed and up-ended their world as they knew it. It was their mom.

One day in the near future you are probably going to be in your car with your son listening to the news about some celebrity or politician who cheated on their spouse and your son then exclaims "Man, cheaters are so lame." and it is going to put a mile-wide smile on your face like it did mine last month.

You want to know when karma bitch-slaps your WW? The day she learns that you met your future wife and your kids talk about how awesome she is. She realizes then and there that your children are likely to have a step mother who outperforms her in just about every fucking category on spouse and parent awesomeness. And then she fears her children will simply toss her aside and make step-mommy the primary mom.

Best revenge ever delivered on these site have been a life well lived after Dday, and your STBX cheating spouse has no part of it. On the flip side, the best gift ever given to a wayward is being a part of their betrayed spouse's life well lived. When you get to that fork in the road YOU get to decide how your situation concludes. You will know what the best choice when you come to that moment.

got it Sharkman and Jduff. I reread part of the thread and you guys nailed it.

He is doing a good job and it sucks that he has to be patient but his bottom line is very important and I hate to see the pain he's in.

I wish him success in his 180 and I hope karma hits his WW someday

Any news GW?

hey stud, how goes it?

Has anyone hard from Gw through PM? Its been a week since he last surfaced.

I think gw has "jumped ship" and is posting in another site.

Thanks. Yeah, I see that now. I don't get over there very often.

I think gw has "jumped ship" and is posting in another site.

Yep.He wants to save his marriage at all cost it seems.

That’s too bad, he was doing so well too.

Seems that GW is living proof that "Advice is what we ask for when we know the answer but wish we didn't "

Sadly, given his situation, I think he'll be back when realisation hits....

I was really hoping to see the end of this one.

Somebody want o fill me in via PM what site he’s on?

I have not seen him as of yet.

GW - we still have your back my man. I know that you are checking

OP, I see from your posts on the other site that you still want your wife back - is that true ?

Somebody want o fill me in via PM what site he’s on?

I don't have enough posts for PM, what's his user name?

If you Google he username from here, you will find his posts on the other site

Got it, thanks.

OP, I see from your posts on the other site that you still want your wife back - is that true ?

According to his story there he never did anything with turning the OM into OM's command or anyone because of his wife's threat. There are also a few other major inconsistencies as if he was just playing to the audience here.Makes the effort put into helping him seem worthless and a waste of time. He is in full doormat mode now. I feel really sorry for him, but it's his life to suffer through as he sees fit.