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Glad this thread was restored.
I am sure higher power can translate :)

This morning I am praying for the BSs of SI, their children, the people around infidelity for whom exposure to it erodes and degrades their concept of marriage, and especially, as always, for the guilty ones. May we all find hope and courage through God’s love and wisdom, the work of Jesus, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

And I pray that Shehawk has an especially wonderful Christmas, in a way that she recognizes and feels as wonderful!

If anyone else would like specific prayer, please say. I like to think that the prayers of a repentant sinner are especially powerful, and did I mention that they are free? Zero cost to you, only upside. You will not find a better deal out there.

I am troubled today for a reason I can’t figure out. Just emotional. I see the bad things all around me although there is nothing actually wrong actual reason. Death and pain and hopelessness. I pray that if I need to be in this place that there is something important there. And I pray for OneSadLady/TotalIdiot, I don’t know what to pray, but that she will find peace. And for MH during this painful time of year, and for my husband, who works so hard, and my children. And for all of the members of SI.

Edited to correct a typo oops

Prayers for peace for you Pippin.

[This message edited by Shehawk at 3:08 PM, Monday, January 13th]

Pippin:

24 "‘"The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace."’

Numbers 6:24-26
New International Version

Praying this for you too Jimbetrayed!
Some times I forget these sorts of versus so thanks for posting.

Thanks Shehawk!

Shehawk and JimBetrayed62, thank you both for your kind messages. I realized I brace myself when opening SI, and to find unexpected kindness is sweet.

I’ve been praying to see more of God’s love in the world, to know him better. I think - I’m able to appreciate beauty, and to be grateful for comfortable and comforting blessings, but now if I want to know him better, it’s to see how gracefully, cleverly, and lovingly he manages pain, destruction, and death. So you have to see those things first, which can be jarring, before you see the beauty of his love. And look here! A concrete example. I was discouraged by the pain and destruction of people who participate in SI, and I was shown the gentle way he worked through you. A small moment to treasure.

JimBetrayed62, I pray with Psalm 67 every week for one of my Bible study groups (usually on Wednesdays). It is from that numbers passage! It felt wonderful to have the same words applied to me that I use for others. Thank you.

God, this week I am giving thanks that you are at work in the hardest and most difficult places of human experience, up to and including death. I believe you can bring good from anything, and ask that you bring your attention and care to all of the people of SI, and especially the guilty ones. Please, help them not feel oppressed by their shame or guilt, and able to look squarely at what they have done and be eager to help those hurt by it, knowing that they are still loved and cherished.

And I ask that you bring special attention to Shehawk and JimBetrayed62, that you continue to strengthen their faith and work in their lives in whatever way is needed.

I believe I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living

Wait on the Lord

Be strong and let your heart take courage

Wait, I say, on the Lord

(Ps 27)

[This message edited by Pippin at 4:25 PM, Thursday, January 16th]

Amen. Thank you for that prayer

Hello:

I would like prayer for my FWS and myself. In a separate post I’ve described how I think we had a stillborn reconciliation a couple decades ago that never dealt with my trauma or never brought my wife to an expression of remorse and recognition of the pain she had caused. I have and continue to forgive, but I believe we missed a crucial phase that was and is necessary to bring complete healing.

Please pray for wisdom for both and the Spirit’s involvement to bring true healing and full reconciliation/

[This message edited by JimBetrayed62 at 11:29 PM, Tuesday, January 21st]

God, you know the depths of pain of betrayal firsthand. You submitted to the pain of betrayal so that you could demonstrate your love and faithfulness to us. Your commitment and our unwillingness to know how we have wronged you is so unfathomable that sometimes we look away. Please, help the wife of JimBetrayed62 to see his love and forgiveness, and to be willing to face what she has done so that she can help him, and herself, and their marriage to heal. Be with them during their conversations and the moments they have no words. Give her courage, Lord, and comfort for both of them.

I will keep praying for your wife and you and your marriage daily, even if I don’t log in or post. The prayers of a reformed sinner are powerful :) Warmly, pippin

This is a beautiful thread. Haven’t been around much lately but was glad to see this here. My faith is what made the biggest impact in my healing.

I have been praying for all of you. I try to remember to pray daily for those affected by infidelity and hope that God can bring healing and peace as He did for me. I will put all of you in my rosary intentions for tonight.

Today I am giving thanks for the faith of AintDatSpecial, that it helped her healing. I'm praying for JimBetrayed62 and his wife, and for all of the people who have places in their marriage that are unhealed and unaddressed. May they be willing to leave the comfort and predictability of their daily lives to enter into the tumult of drawing closer. May they cling to the Truth as the savior that it is. I pray for my husband and that any barriers between us continue to be removed, and I am so thankful that I share my life with him.

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. (Hebrews 12)

(With thanks to Tim Keller, who points out that discipline in English is a translation of the Greek paideia, from which we get pediatrics. God is not disciplining us as an angry teacher or coach, but as a father, who wants the thriving and flourishing of his children)

AintDatSpecial, I hope at some point you will share what it looked like that your faith impacted your healing, and thank you for the rosary prayer!

Does anyone else want prayer? It is free, no calorie, and you do not have to believe in the same God as I do or any God.

A prayer:

Father I see all the hurting people on this Web site and thank you that you see them and know them by name. Thank you for those who are here to help others navigate their brokenness and bless them for their service. Father, I ask that you would open our eyes to your healing love and the way of love, forgiveness, healing, repentance and peace.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away."
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭4‬-‭8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I came here to post a prayer from the book that my husband and I are reading right now, and I find that it fits well with the prayer offered above:

For the despairing man, there should be kindness from his friend; so that he does not abandon the fear of the Almighty.

(Job 6 NASB)

May everyone on SI be wise, generous, and loving in the kindness offered to others who are despairing. May God use this platform to meet people in their darkest moments. And for myself, I ask to continue to be able to see your work in this world, for encouragement and hope and mostly so that I can better understand your beautiful self.

Asking for prayers for wisdom and divine intervention in matters related to the effects from the reason we are all here. I am facing a situation and could use the support .

Shehawk:

I’m agreeing with you and praying this for you: that He saves those who are crushed in spirit. The Lord knows your tears and hurts - He has not forgotten you and will SAVE you from and through this

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. – Psalm 34:18

Lord, please help Shehawk truly feel your saving, loving presence in a way she will never forget

Pray for and believe He will give you wisdom:

"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind."
‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Father, thank you for the wisdom you will give to Shehawk as she asks of you

And finally, I’m praying that as you turn these things over to Him, He will fill you with peace

Philippians 4:6-7
New King James Version
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Father, as Shehawk gives you her anxieties in prayer, fill her to overflowing with the peace you have promised

Father, Shehawk is asking for wisdom and your intervention in dealing with the effect of infidelity, and I know these are gifts that you want to give to her. You want to help her see clearly and you want to be invited into every part of our lives, especially the most difficult parts. I add my prayers to hers and to JimBetrayed62's that you help her to see clearly and to navigate the storm that she is in, and bring her safely through it.

Shehawk, thank you for this prayer request, it means a lot to me to be able to help in some way. I will keep praying for you through the week.

Father, today I miss my old friend Maia. I miss reading what she wrote to other waywards, her quick summing up of a situation that looks complicated, I miss her sense of humor and her intense deep interests. I miss sending her posts and saying I think this person needs you, and seeing what she wrote to them. I miss her calling me her paduan and listening as I wrestled with some new biblical topic and then saying in a big huff "but you are just a spiritual BABY!" and feeling like I could just put that burden down. You put her in this place, had her write her posts and her profile story years before I came here, and then brought her back her looking for prayer and help right when I needed to find her. You let me have a personal connection right when I needed it most, and what a person! I remember reading her story and thinking if she could face all of that with honesty, compassion, and humor, so can I! I thank you for the intricate and beautiful way that you wove her story and mine together. What a crazy story! We could not be more opposite. I am grateful I had the chance to be friends with someone when the friendship was sometimes hard. I am sorry I didn't do more to help her. I'm sorry I didn't realize that the downcast in her voice had taken on a different hue, that she was struggling with pain and illness that she wouldn't admit. I wish I had listened more carefully and been more of a comfort to her. I am sorry I can't be of more help to her daughter. Please help Maia's daughter and grandchildren. I know that she died praising you and praying, and I know that means that you accept her and care for her, but there are times when what I know and what my heart understands don't quite match, and today is one of those days, but I still thank you and trust that you have everything in your hands, her soul and her family, my husband and my family, the people on SI and everyone who has been hurt by infidelity.

This week I am giving thanks for the many ways that God has worked through people who have experienced infidelity to bring them closer to himself. I pray for Truth to call out to wayward people, especially people who are so fearful of the truth that they hide even from themselves. Give them truth in their inward spirit, and let it flow out from there to everyone around them.

Behold, you desired truth in the innermost being . .

The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;

a broken and contrite heart, God, You will not despise.

And I am so thankful that when people turn toward you, you are immediately there with wisdom and mercy. I am thankful to feel clean on the inside, and that whenever I feel the urge to hide something, it feels in conflict with the Truth inside of me. May it always be so! I would rather discomfort and pain than untruthfulness - do you hear that Father! I ask for that and submit to it willingly.

Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered.

Blessed is the one whose sin the Lord does not count against them, and in whose spirit is no deceit.

When I kept silent my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long.

Day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer.

Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity.

I said, "I will confess my transgression to the Lord."

And you forgave the guilt of my sin. . . .

Rejoice and be glad you righteous! Sing, all you upright in heart!

[This message edited by Pippin at 7:58 PM, Sunday, February 16th]