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Support Through Prayer ...Part 3

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northeasternarea ( Member #43214) posted at 1:29 AM on Wednesday, November 29th, 2017

Absolutely!

The only person you can change is yourself.

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IceThee ( Member #53715) posted at 1:33 AM on Wednesday, November 29th, 2017

Thank you north 😊

"It's ok to not be ok"

Me: BS Him: xH (still cheating I'm sure)
Dday 1: November 2012 (didn’t realize it was a Dday until April 2018)
Dday 2: April 2016 Dday 3: July 2017
D final July 2018

"He who is without sin, cast

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IceThee ( Member #53715) posted at 3:01 PM on Wednesday, November 29th, 2017

Had a chat with my lawyer. It doesn't really look "good" for me, based on many factors. It was not a "feel good" conversation in the least. It is the reality of what might be and I'd rather know now than have it sugar coated.

The goood thing about it is that I didn't end up in tears. I am also doing okay. So I consider that a healing "win" 😊

Please keep praying for tomorrow. I am believing God for a miracle. Believing and asking that He will soften the judge's heart. That my WH will be held accountable, ultimately for his own salvation! That he will see the truth of the destruction he has caused and continues to sow, for himself.

Thank you so much dear friends 💜💚💙

[This message edited by IceThee at 9:02 AM, November 29th (Wednesday)]

"It's ok to not be ok"

Me: BS Him: xH (still cheating I'm sure)
Dday 1: November 2012 (didn’t realize it was a Dday until April 2018)
Dday 2: April 2016 Dday 3: July 2017
D final July 2018

"He who is without sin, cast

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IceThee ( Member #53715) posted at 6:58 PM on Thursday, November 30th, 2017

Thank you for your prayers. The hearing went fine, nothing out of the ordinary that I know of (this is all new to me!). The decision will come in 2 weeks.

"It's ok to not be ok"

Me: BS Him: xH (still cheating I'm sure)
Dday 1: November 2012 (didn’t realize it was a Dday until April 2018)
Dday 2: April 2016 Dday 3: July 2017
D final July 2018

"He who is without sin, cast

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Lily12 ( Member #60784) posted at 7:54 PM on Thursday, November 30th, 2017

Hi all,

I could really use some prayers. I am struggling with my WH acting remorseful and whether I should R or not. It's very tough and I want to R, but I'm not sure if this is the best timing.

Also, he is not a believer so......if everyone would please pray for him, that would be fantastic.

Thanks

Lily

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BrokenheartedWif ( Member #40955) posted at 1:12 AM on Friday, December 1st, 2017

praying for both

IceThee and Lilly 12

He claims he loved me the whole time of his LTA. I'm not sure I'll survive his kind of love. Whorena The Cumdumpster pretended to be my friend the entire time as well. I'll take an enemy any day of the week.

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Lily12 ( Member #60784) posted at 1:39 AM on Saturday, December 2nd, 2017

Thank you! 🙂

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1Faith ( Member #38975) posted at 1:50 AM on Saturday, December 2nd, 2017

Prayers for you Lily12.

Wish you peace and the serenity that the Lord can bring you.

(((hugs)))

Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for

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IceThee ( Member #53715) posted at 1:07 AM on Wednesday, December 6th, 2017

Thank you so much BrokenheartedWif

"It's ok to not be ok"

Me: BS Him: xH (still cheating I'm sure)
Dday 1: November 2012 (didn’t realize it was a Dday until April 2018)
Dday 2: April 2016 Dday 3: July 2017
D final July 2018

"He who is without sin, cast

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Lily12 ( Member #60784) posted at 2:12 PM on Wednesday, December 20th, 2017

Hi all,

Just popping in to say I’ve been praying for you guys. I’m moving along the best that I can. Trusting in God.

Things with the wh are up and down. Sometimes I think we are on the road to R some days not. So, I’m asking if anyone would be willing to pray for him? Not so much for R, but just that he finds salvation. He’s not a believer and no matter what happens between us, it is my deepest desire that he finds the Lord. You can just call him G if you want.

Thanks,

Lily

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BrokenheartedWif ( Member #40955) posted at 5:03 AM on Thursday, December 21st, 2017

((Lily12)) Praying for your WH and also for you.

He claims he loved me the whole time of his LTA. I'm not sure I'll survive his kind of love. Whorena The Cumdumpster pretended to be my friend the entire time as well. I'll take an enemy any day of the week.

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Woundedhank ( Member #54419) posted at 1:16 AM on Monday, December 25th, 2017

Hi everyone...I'm sick with the flu and my legs are burning. Can't make it to church. I wanted to to go so much and worship my Lord on this Christmas.

My love for the Lord is greater than my pain but I am stuck at home.

Please pray for me.

[This message edited by Woundedhank at 1:45 AM, December 27th (Wednesday)]


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steadychevy ( Member #42608) posted at 2:14 AM on Monday, December 25th, 2017

I've prayed and am praying, Wounded. While it's good to be in the other believers to worship God is everywhere. He is with you. He knows your heart. He knows your limitations. He's with you. In our time of great need he is there. He's with you and he's with me. Go with God.

BH(me)70; XWW 64; M 42 yrs
DDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14
LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW
"dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, lies
Separated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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Woundedhank ( Member #54419) posted at 3:26 AM on Monday, December 25th, 2017

Thanks steadychevy for reminding me that.

Peace


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steadychevy ( Member #42608) posted at 11:51 AM on Monday, December 25th, 2017

Merry Christmas, all. I pray we all find joy in this season that celebrates the greatest gift of all. John 3:16-17 says it all to me. God go with you.

BH(me)70; XWW 64; M 42 yrs
DDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14
LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW
"dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, lies
Separated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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hopefull77 ( Member #43221) posted at 3:26 PM on Friday, December 29th, 2017

A good read to start the New Year.... Peace Everyone....

When Things Fall Apart

Friday, December 29, 2017

The word change normally refers to new beginnings. But transformation more often happens not when something new begins but when something old falls apart. The pain of something old falling apart—disruption and chaos—invites the soul to listen at a deeper level. It invites and sometimes forces the soul to go to a new place because the old place is not working anymore. The mystics use many words to describe this chaos: fire, darkness, death, emptiness, abandonment, trial, the Evil One. Whatever it is, it does not feel good and it does not feel like God. We will do anything to keep the old thing from falling apart.

This is when we need patience, guidance, and the freedom to let go instead of tightening our controls and certitudes. Perhaps Jesus is describing this phenomenon when he says, “It is a narrow gate and a hard road that leads to life, and only a few find it” (Matthew 7:14). Not accidentally, he mentions this narrow road right after teaching the Golden Rule. Jesus knows how much letting go it takes to “treat others as you would like them to treat you” (7:12).

Transformation usually includes a disconcerting reorientation. Change can either help people to find a new meaning, or it can cause people to close down and turn bitter. The difference is determined by the quality of our inner life, or what we call “spirituality.” Change of itself just happens; spiritual transformation is an active process of letting go, living in the confusing dark space for a while, and allowing yourself to be spit up on a new and unexpected shore. You can see why Jonah in the belly of the whale is such an important symbol for many Jews and Christians.

In the moments of insecurity and crisis, “shoulds” and “oughts” don’t really help; they just increase the shame, guilt, pressure, and likelihood of backsliding. It’s the deep “yeses” that carry you through. Focusing on something you absolutely believe in, that you’re committed to, will help you wait it out.

Love wins over guilt any day. It is sad that we settle for the short-run effectiveness of shaming people instead of the long-term life benefits of grace-filled transformation. But we are a culture of progress and efficiency, impatient with gradual growth. God’s way of restoring things interiorly is much more patient—and finally more effective. God lets Jonah run in the wrong direction, until this reluctant prophet finds a long, painful, circuitous path to get back where he needs to be—in spite of himself! Looking in your own “rear-view mirror” can fill you with gratitude for God’s work in your life.

me-BS him-WS3 adult childrenmarried a long timeLTA 2010-2012D-day - 11-2012 status - reconciling and very hopeful

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."

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blakesteele ( Member #38044) posted at 9:50 PM on Friday, December 29th, 2017

You simply can't surprise God....but not all things in this fallen world are his will.

While I don't disagree God can use all things for good (look how adultery can work in our lives to grow and heal us!), we have a very real enemy who would like us to use our will for his agenda....and we do.

Every choice we make goes towards our King's agenda or that of the dark prince....there is no middle ground, there is no Switzerland.

The battle is real...stay frosty.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

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steadychevy ( Member #42608) posted at 11:21 PM on Friday, December 29th, 2017

Merry Christmas, blakesteele. Wishing you a fruitful 2018.

BH(me)70; XWW 64; M 42 yrs
DDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14
LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW
"dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, lies
Separated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020

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TiredSoul2017 ( Member #61048) posted at 10:08 PM on Tuesday, January 2nd, 2018

MH whose PA ended late July. I have had NC since Nov. 21st. but nothing Physical since June 2017.

I miss HIM or the idea of him and I am sick over it. I hate how I hurt my H but I also resent that I forgave him but he can't forgive me.

I am not a good mom right now. I snap at my kids bc I am stressed and scared that my H will throw me out and leave me penniless.

I love my H but I don't know if we are right for each other. Too much hurting of one another over the y ears.

I need [prayers for clarity. I want to walk the path I am supposed to

Thank you

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intheblinkofaney ( Member #45537) posted at 10:26 PM on Tuesday, January 2nd, 2018

Struggling with what to believe anymore.

It seems the harder I prayed the more bad that happened.

During craziness with getting scammed by roofers I prayed so hard to please let this resolve, please and it got worse as we began getting harassed.

I prayed harder please let this harassment stop and it got worse as we got letter from city clean up. I prayed still.

Then the latest occurred with WH and I must admit I screamed to the sky and to God some very nasty things.

I haven’t prayed since

You and me, we made a vow
For better or for worse
I can't believe you let me down
But the proof is in the way it hurts
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10-12-14 D-Day
3-24-15 Giving R a chance

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